Domestic Violence-Personal Narrative

Although we lost Ellen Pence, a woman who changed how domestic violence is addressed, in 2012, there are many lives that are being saved to this day because of her work. Ellen Pence found her calling in 1977 when she began working for the Minneapolis Housing Authority that helped individuals relocate with housing complications (StarTribune, 2010). It was then that she immersed herself through domestic violence cases and set the standard for addressing these cases. Ellen Pence is especially known for establishing the Duluth Program, a program that address batterers in the court systems, and Praxis Training, which are training on addressing domestic violence for law enforcement, advocates, community agencies, and institutions. Pence’s 35 years of service change the way domestic violence cases were handled, educated key players in domestic violence cases, and showed the world what it was like to be a victim of domestic abuse. Without her efforts, many individuals in power addressing these cases would be lost and those to who are victims would not be understood as they are today.

Domestic violence is not a label that can be boxed and defined. No, it is emotions of pain, fear, shock, confusion, and most surprising, love. It is difficult for many to comprehend if not brought up within a violent home; the true, passionate emotions that fall as a burden upon the victims, who often stay quiet. What brings the traumatic pain to domestic violence is that a person who is supposed to cherish and love another, ends up creating fear and panic when even mentioned. Domestic violence, which is indeed a form of abuse, is an issue that needs to be handled with delicate, yet able coherence. Within the society of America, the fight against domestic violence needs to be accepted instead of ignored. In doing so, there are many questions

“Every year in the United States there are over 3 million incidents of domestic violence. That means that every nine seconds a women is beaten by her domestic partner” (Findeley). There are many women that stay silent when being abuse by their partners. The consequences of staying quiet when obtaining abuse can be dangerous and can also lead to death. Many women do not recognize the importance of the fact that there is in speaking out if they are being abuse by their partner. No woman should take domestic abuse by their partners. Every woman deserves a healthy relationship; A healthy relationship involves trust, respect, and consideration for the other person. Domestic abuse has gotten worse during the past years and is still rising up. One can see that domestic abuse can occur everywhere. Domestic abuse is considered a crime and woman should not keep silent when being abuse.

In beginning my revision process, I started by staring at my submitted essay over and over. First thought, I should have changed the title to something along the lines of, “Domestic Violence, is there Treatment?” Second thought, Wow!! What a difference I am from the person who first began this course. I took a look back over my previous submitted writing assignments and could see my writing abilities has drastically improved, As I reviewed and reflected on the submitted essay “Domestic Violence and Treatment”, I believe, I did a complete and thorough job in delivering my subject. As I previously stated, I credit you, Mr. Perkins and this course for my improvements. I have always struggled to put my thoughts on paper in a manner that is coherent. I now feel that my ability to write and express my ideas, thoughts and knowledge have grown stronger.

On 03/18/2017 at approximately 2132 hours, I was dispatched to 8340 Rd. 46 in the County of Montezuma, and State of Colorado for reports of a domestic disturbance.

There are many different types of domestic violence. Physical abuse is the most obvious form, but this is not to say that outsiders always recognize it. Generally, physical violence causes bodily harm, using a variety of methods. Slapping, pushing, throwing, hitting, punching, and strangling are only a few methods. An object or weapon may or may not be used. There is not always physical evidence of physical abuse such as bruising, bleeding, scratches, bumps, etc., therefore, absence of physical marks does not necessarily mean physical abuse had not occurred. Physical abuse sometimes escalates to murder (Morris and Biehl 7, Haley 14-17).

One strategy to fix this is to educate the public. Mostly the youth, because they are the future. By educating the public people will be more aware of the signs. To know if someone’s suffering from domestic violence or to know how to get themselves out of it. Most schools provide health classes that go over this topic for a few days, but I think they need more than just a few days to learn about domestic violence. I strongly feel that they should educate not just in schools but in jobs. To get across to the older generation too. Another strategy to help the victims is to provide more help. Providing organization and classes to go to while or after they’ve been abused for support and comfort. How this would work would be by getting the government to support this movement. Also tell law enforcement to make tighter and stricter laws, because many abusers get restraining orders put on them and they violate them. Not having to face tough consequences. With all these changes it would not alter our system we have in place today. These changes will work in our current system. This problem just needs to get more attention from the public. To do something before it happens rather than after. By doing all these things it will help you, me, and everybody else in this world. Not just a certain race, gender, or country, because we all tie together to make this all happen. We are all part of this

And yes, I’m not anyone special, I don’t study the topic, nor am I a survivor of domestic violence myself. But I’m here to tell a story. I’m here to make a change. And I’m here to encourage all of you to do the same.

I would shut my eyes because I knew what was coming. And before I shut my eyes, I held my breath, like a swimmer ready to dive into a deep ocean. I could never watch when his hands came toward me; I only patiently waited for the harsh sound of the strike. I would always remember his eyes right before I closed my own: pupils wide with rage, cold, and dark eyebrows clenched with hate. When it finally came, I never knew which fist hit me first, or which blow sent me to my knees because I could not bring myself to open my eyes. They were closed because I didn’t want to see what he had promised he would never do again. In the darkness of my mind, I could escape to a paradise where he would never reach me. I would find again the haven where I

Domestic violence is an ugly situation for everyone who is involved. Unfortunately, I have a relative who is a victim of Domestic Violence. In the early 1980’s she was being abused by her husband. I remember witnessing the black eyes and bruises on her arms, and when you question her about it, she will make up excuses of falling and hurting herself. A subject she would always avoid talking about and request we mind our own business. They had four children together, and the abuse seems to stop, but the children did witness some of the fights. Oldest child being a boy there was some concern that he would treat women the way his father treated his wife. He is now a grown man, who is a loving father and caring husband to his wife, and there isn’t

Did you know that every 9 seconds a women is being beaten or assaulted? It is known that around the world, at least one and every three women has been beaten into having sex or some rudely thing in her entire lifetime. There are many cases where the abuser is a family member. Domestic violence is that the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sex crime, and different abusive behavior perpetrated by an intimate partner against another. It is a virulent disease touching people in each community, notwithstanding age, economic standing, race, religion, status or academic background. Violence against girls is usually amid showing emotion abusive and dominant behavior, and so is a component of a scientific pattern of dominance and

At my agency I work with victims of domestic violence. In training with Chesterfield County Domestic Violence Resource Center I learned a lot about how this growing problem has affected them. This county is one of two that had been recognized for efforts to ending domestic violence. They believe that effective intervention in assaults and sexual violence occurs when the agency and service coordinates their policies and practice to meet community intervention.

Domestic violence is a serious problem, and it occurs throughout different countries. Domestic violence doesn’t always have to be hitting physically, but it is also abusing someone mentally many people struggle each, and everyday because they are being abused physically, and mentally, but it doesn’t matter if it’s physically, or mentally because it’s still wrong, and it causes pain. A silenced cry is what I call it because most people stay quit, and don’t tell anyone they let the abuser take control. Many women suffer from abusive relationships, and most women speak of there situation, but I think it’s time for all of that to change it’s time to make a change in the community’s. Men think its ok to abuse women, and it doesn’t have to physical

Domestic violence is a very important social problem that we must educate ourselves on because it has such a profound and negative effect on the individual(s) being abused. They are affected mentally, emotionally, physically, and I know from experience that the scars can run very deep. Being in an abusive relationship for three years was devastating to my self-image as a teenager, and because of these feelings of inadequacy, my decreasing esteem allowed me to stay in such a dangerous scenario. Healing from the negative effects of that relationship has been a difficult journey for me, and I can only imagine how much more difficult it must be for women abused for years on end. To this day, I struggle greatly with the ability to let go of my own "control"

I was born and raised in Atlanta, GA. I come from a place where over 70% of black men are raised in a fatherless home, where domestic violence is something that is a way of showing love. Drugs and alcohol are encouraged or pushed on you to do. Most of the uses are raised in the street, because they are the only men in our life that will pay us some attention.