Book Critique Dating and the Single Parent
The book Dating and the single Parent by Ron L. Deal is written to help single parents and people who are going to be dating single parents. This is done by asking questions of the reader to find out if they are ready for a blended family and to make sure that the reader understands how to make a blended family work. The author draws his experience on his counseling of single parents and his work in ministry. The book is broken up in three sections, with the first section dealing with the preparation of starting to date. The second selection purpose is best way of finding a partner. The last section deals with the marriage commitment and preparing the stepfamily for marriage.
Summary
In the first section the author explains the purpose of dating. He does this by first explaining that it is not about finding a soul mate or someone who they can spend eternity with. He goes into detail why this form of thinking is wrong and selfish. The issue of God’s purpose is dealt with in dating and how God uses relationships to grow us. To find out if a person is ready for dating he uses FAQs in the dating process. He adds that one should “look around for another Christ – follower who share our heart, interest, life objectives, background, parenting style, and vision for the family.” Deal, R. L. (2012, pg. 44). Lastly this section goes on to deal with death and divorce and deals with the question, is the healing ever over? This is done by
This research proposes to explore the relationships that blended families experience and to determine what realistic expectations are, and how blended families use them when working towards becoming a well-functioning family unit. Like the average nuclear family, blended families are unique in their own way. In the article Couples Considering a Blended Family, it is stated that families are to evade the ideal expectations for a nuclear family as one would for a blended family (Fogarty et al., 2006). With this in mind, this research will examine the findings to detect what realistic exceptions are and how much do they differ than those of a nuclear family when looking to create a stable union. While looking to determine what is to be considered a realistic expectation and how that reflects for all blended families; this research will further dissect several articles as researchers examine different factors that tie into becoming a blended family. With several types of blended families in the world, this research will also explore the relationship differences within the types of blended families, and how this can further help researchers when looking into the expectations and outcomes of creating a family bond.
In 2002, number of children living with their single parent was 16.5 million (Davidson). The most important thing is that each single-parent family is different from the other. Children who live with a widowed mother will definitely be living a different home life from children with divorced parents or the one whose parents were never married. Children of the parents who were divorced will always have some kind of relationship with parents and parents’ partners. But it is obvious that children from single-parent families face tougher times economically as well as
The family dynamics in Max Apple’s “Stepdaughters” and Amy Tan’s “A Pair of Tickets” displays some of the issues that parents, stepparents and teenagers may or may not experience. A mother’s relationship with her children has a very unique connection, especially when it comes our daughters. Being a mother or stepmother is a problematical and rewarding experience: nevertheless, a mother’s love is unconditional. How do you except someone for his or her choices on being different? Is it easier for a step-parent to see things more clearly that the biological parent? Every family has its issues. When it’s a blended family with mothers, fathers, stepchildren and other family member, those issues can become more complex to understand.
The text has only given the superficial analysis of the steps and the composition of the blended relations. It has failed to give insightful details that made some of the step families to work. It has based its argument on the premise that many literary writing have failed to capture fully the topic of the blended family. That is why it tries to justify its failure to fully disclose the emerging issues in these relations. However, step families are taking center stage, given the fact that at least 50% of the Americans are in a step family relationship. It is obvious that the matter has a very big impact in the social lives of many societies. That is why it calls for a serious social research to unearth the predominant issues that surround these common trend in the social set ups. It is a commonplace phenomenon but the article has failed to reattribute the salient features that surround it. It has only dwelt on the obvious reasons that influence the mixed or the blended families. The text has not provided any important solutions rather than stating the factors that affect both the step parents and the children. It is obvious to outline the basic factors that have resulted in the step family arrangements but the lack of vivid description of the social outcomes leaves out the significant points, which could have been explained by the
Social class has always been a depicting factor when it comes to the distribution of food variety within each economic class. We learn our eating habits as child as we become inhabited to a diet that is present forth to us by our parents. The parent’s food supply is control by their economical income and social status. Just as a lower-class individual you should have the same opportunity to provide yourself with a healthier diet that someone of the upper class does. In society, where single parenting is developing into a popular relationship that places more of a strain on the finances within the household. For example, if you have a mother of 4 working a minimum wage job she not going to purchase name brand items like Tropicana or Ocean Spray
1. There was no author or writer details provided to even begin deciphering the credibility of the source. Since there is only one source provided, it obviously is the most credible. The credibility doesn’t come from being able to pick between multiple sources, but only because it’s the only one provided.
Did you know that one third of all children in the United States (US) are expected to live in a stepfamily before they reach the age of 18[helpguide.org 2008]? While some people consider blended families abnormal, they can be just as good as a “regular” family. With blended families becoming more common, there are more studies being done to show both the similarities and differences between “regular” and blended families.
Summary: Singles mother hurt themselves and children by trying to show society that they are strong and that they can survive by their own. This source show us how kids can be affected in a bad way because of their mother status. When those women decide to bring to the family a new integrant, kids get hurt with their emotional and in their academy life as shown in this quote “ The more “transitions” experienced by a child — the arrival of a stepparent, a parental boyfriend or girlfriend, or a step- or half sibling — the more children are likely to have either emotional or academic problems, or both.” (Hymowitz, 2014)
Ingrid Blackstock is a loving, caring, respectful, understanding, hardworking single mother of one. She was born and raised in Whatcom County, went to school at Nooksack Valley school district. Was an only child, having her grandparents teaching her things that she would need to do later in her life. That Ingrid had a tough time raising her only child that she has.
For those men who want to find a godly woman to be her lifetime partner, the search can be more challenging compared to non-Christian daters. You must have the patience and discernment to know how to choose the right woman, and how to be the right partner as well. Since dating is that time to getting to know a woman and grow more in the Lord before you finally commit to marriage, here are some important reminders that you should follow.
Date night is typically for mom and dad. But, in our single-Parent household, I've made it my mission to teach my son how to treat a woman. One way we do that is every third Saturday of the month, me and my son get all dressed up and we go out on a date. I started doing this when my son was around seven years old. We've done everything from miniature golf to having a picnic in the park. I always have tried to make it extremely special. When we first started, I had to teach my son how to open the door for a woman pull out a chair for a woman. Now, six years later and he is A 13-year-old gentleman. I no longer have to teach him or remind him to do any of them things, because he does it not only on his own, but because he loves doing it.
ontinuing on the article, Ruggles collected data from the Integrated Public Use Microdata Series (IPUM) to see the family structure over the past century. What she found that 30% of black children lived without one or both parent in 1880-1960 and single parenthood raised (Ruggles, 1994 page 141). What this tells me is that single parenthood is not new among African American household as single parent household was present in the 1960. If I were to take a different approach why single parenting is apparent is some adults in the past is that individualism is more important than a marriage. Individualism is when a person focus on their own interest and focus as a person (Cherlin, Andrew 7th edition, page 16). One of the parents could be seeking
When reflecting on relationships the need for a solid basis is critical. Crabb (1997) says “when we reduce Christianity to a series of steps for handling life better or a set of truths to believer or a list of things to do, we miss the whole point of the gospel” (p. 5). Which is we were created to relish God’s good character and loving openhandedness to us. Through that perfect goodness we are to give ourselves wholeheartedly to others reflecting his perfect image (Crabb, 1997). God’s design for was for us to perceive ourselves in a good way and understand that; “Our value is rooted in his underserved love, our purpose is to give others a taste of God’s goodness that points them to Christ, our hope is being with Christ in a future day when every relationship will work exactly as planned” (Crabb, 1997, p. 5). The reason I bring this up is that understanding how
During the years, single parent families have become a more common thing. This is starting to become a problem, because family dynamics can really influence a child’s life. According to studies it affects not only the child but the parents too.
Single parent households are a sensitive topic that is highly debated today. This topic is one that has repercussions for both the parents and the children involved. However, regardless of the different consequences, these households continue to grow in the coming years. “In 1970, traditional two-parent married households dominated, making up 81 % of all households in the United States (US). By 2012 this number dropped to around 66 % … In 2012, approximately 21 million children, or 28 % of all children in the US, lived with one parent” (Kramer, 2015). It is interesting to look at the way the single parent households continue to grow throughout the years, all while being a hot topic for discussion on its consequences. When thinking about a book to read for this course, there was no real choice. I stumbled upon this book and knew right away that I could benefit from this book, as well as connect to it on a deeper level and relate to it personally.