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Cultural Norms In South America

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In modern day, age, and culture, by the time a child in North America turns eighteen years old, they are expected to move out and be able to live on their own- and are pushed to. Culture itself, is a very influential factor of living in a certain area. One cannot live in an area without adopting these kinds of ‘expected’ comings of age. Media has also normalized it, and more than not, the contrary of the cultural norm is frowned upon highly. Take this particular example, in contrast to ‘living in your parent’s basement’. Until a person is able to be fully independent, living with your parents isn’t too bad, however, the phrase has become an insult due to cultural norms. In South America, for example, the contrary is normalized instead, and …show more content…

We can never truly do most things on our own, but we are forced to believe that lest we are able to, we will remain weak and dependent. The truth of the matter is, that too early and so suddenly, take the age of eighteen, many children are expected to know how to be an adult before being taught so. Immediately they must take on new responsibilities that they have never even considered being involved with before, let alone know that they were necessary. Yes, the truth of the matter is, that independence is vital, but immediate independence is harder and less realistic- one cannot learn without watching, first. Suppose on one's’ 18th birthday, they are expected to phone the clinic. Their parents are deadbeats, however, and never told the child, now adult, that it would be necessary in life. Being the lazy parents they are, they hop on the adult’s case and tell them to become more independent and kick them out of the house to find a job. There is nothing wrong with self-reliance, but the importance placed on it to the point of disgust if the contrary exists is merely disturbing. The notion that at one point in life we must all be independent and avoid others’ help is simply a barrier to learn how to do new things, nothing more, nothing …show more content…

In today’s society, the two are mixed up to a huge extend- maturity and independence. Maturity means that something has reached its full level of development and has grown to the highest extent- that one can fully take care of themselves and deal with others in an orderly fashion. Independence, however, refers to someone who is not in need of being surrounded by others to successfully go about their life. My father, for example, is, bluntly independent, but not yet mature (SORRY MOM). He is able to walk around and be able to fend for himself at ease, but he is not mature enough to be able to deal with others. One, independence, means to be able to deal with yourself, while the other, maturity, refers to how you deal with others. Both are connected, yet can be inversive. We put too much emphasis on marrying out the son or daughter and having them get a job and raise a family but too little on them knowing the what next- or the how

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