Communication is the foundation of any successful relationship. Partners that communicate their thoughts and feelings, along with their likes and dislikes, are more likely to regard their relationships as happy and content. Nevertheless, not every relationship can be this way, and some are even plagued with an extramarital affair, either enacted by one or both partners in the relationship. Studies show that 30-60% of American men and 20-50% of American women will have sex with someone other than their spouse while they are married (Vangelisti & Gerstenberger, 2004). This is a rather high statistic, and even though affairs are becoming more common in society today, they are still a painful experience for all involved. In articles by Afifi, …show more content…
Positive face is regarded, as the needs for ones desire to be liked, while negative face characterizes individuals need to be free from any sort of imposition or restraint. When an individual finds out that their spouse has had an affair, there becomes an imminent threat to one’s face. This is due to the fact that people may place an importance on maintaining a positive impression for those around them. When this is threatened by an affair, one must “repair damaged face (labeled facework), including apologies, excuses, and justifications” (Afifi et al., 2001). The transgressor of the affair, to help repair the damage, must do this facework not only to restore their partner’s positive and negative face, but also to try and mend any sort of indiscretions that emerged from said affair. The researchers of this article mentioned that in their research they found that there are four general methods in which one can discover a partner’s affair. They are unsolicited third party discovery, “red handed”, solicited discovery, and unsolicited partner discovery (Afifi et al., 2001). In unsolicited third party discovery, another person outside the relationship tells the primary partner about the infidelity. “Red handed” occurs when the primary partner accidentally walks in on an act of adultery. Solicited discovery occurs when the primary partner discovers the infidelity and confronts the transgressor
Some may think Sexual infidelity is the leading cause for break ups in short term relationships. However, poor communication is the biggest factor that causes couples to break up. In Richard Ford’s “Under the radar” and Ernest Hemmingway’s “Hills like White Elephants” poor communication is the reason for the couples’ dilemma. In the Ford Story, Marjorie, the wife withholds information from Steven her husband about an affair. While in the Hemmingway Tale the couple cannot find a mutual solution to a pregnancy.
Justin Trudeau is the eldest son of the late Canadian Prime Minister, Pierre Trudeau. Justin trailed in his father's well-known footsteps in 2015, winning election as Canada's prime minister. He was born on December 25, 1971, in Ottawa, Canada. Meaning that, Justin Trudeau was engrossed in Canadian politics from the start. Justin attended the same school as his father, the Jesuit-run College Jean-de-Brebeuf. He decided to study literature at McGill University, receiving his bachelor's degree in 1994. He then pursued a degree in education at the University of British Columbia. Trudeau worked as a teacher for many years in the Vancouver area. When his father passed away, he started to avoid the political arena. However, in 2006 he decided to
“Interpersonal relationships have traditionally been regarded as one of the major determinants of health and well-being” (Paat). But what constitutes a healthy relationship? In Raymond Carver’s “Cathedral” a man and his wife on the surface have a rocky relationship that seems to be teetering on the husband’s impartiality to his wife and the wife’s resentment towards her husband’s impartiality. However, Brewer-Davis states that, “loving someone sometimes seems to appropriately override impartiality…”. The ties that this couple has established and the healthy communication of their moral standing is the key to their growth. Although the husband is considered sort of a ‘bad boy’ and the wife is characterized as a sweet, caring individual; it is this difference in personalities that brings them together as the husband receives emotional stimulation that he could not otherwise get by himself. Consequently, the wife receives a reality check from her husband’s partiality and rational demeanor. Paat
Infidelity is depicted as an extremely negative thing in the United States, and is often blamed for trust issues, psychologically damaging the spouse and their children, tearing apart marriages and families and more. People who commit adultery are often shamed and told how wrong what they did is and what a terrible person they are for doing it. According to the Journal of Martial and Family by the Associated Press, however, 41% of “marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional.” Clearly, while infidelity is generally viewed negative by society, many people either decide that it is not as negative as it is portrayed, or do not care and do it anyway. “The Lady with the Pet Dog” and “The Storm” both go
Marriage requires effort and work. Many newlyweds come into a marriage thinking it is easy but do not consider the consequences of marriage that heavily rely on balances and partnership. Marriage is all about compromise. It is important to engage in a premarital program to allow both partners to learn what to expect within a marriage, how to face certain roadblocks, and to better communication when conflict is aroused so that divorce does not become an option. Gottman’s research (2009) has made a significant contribution to the study of relationship and marriage tying unity, harmony, and communication together to make relationship and marriage work. When a couple who does not have consummate love (intimacy, passion, and commitment), they often portray the six indicators of divorce: harsh startup, the Four Horsemen, flooding, body language, failed repair attempts and reflecting on bad memories (Gottman, 2009). Divorce often occurs within the first two years of marriages and almost half of divorces end within the first seven years (Bhutto-Ramirez, 2015).
This paper looks to achieve a better perspective of how infidelity is viewed through the lens of different cultures, and how it impacts these cultures, specifically looking at African-American, Hispanic-Americans, and Asian-American cultures. The topic of cultural views on infidelity in general terms is understood as there being unfaithfulness between partners in a relationship, whether it be emotional, sexual, or a combination of both. It is for the most part a behavior frowned upon worldwide. There are many reasons why infidelity may occur within a relationship. Individuals that do not feel emotional support or feels apathetic run a greater risk for infidelity (Allen et al., 2005). Other risky attitudes include poor communication, which is made up of fewer positive and more negative interactions (Allen et al., 2008).
Friendships and romantic relationships makes our lives go round. Without them our lives would be dull and lonely. Unlike family members, we are allowed to choose our friends and lovers. There are various levels of friendships and diverse forms of romantic relationships, and they can all lead to being close, intimate, and loving. Both friendships and romances considerably enrich the well-being of our physical and mental state. Friendships can lead to romantic relationships, and romantic relationships can lead to just being friends.
Chapter 12 talks about communicating in intimate relationships. There were a lot of interesting things discussed in this chapter, but the section I found most interesting was the one about gender differences in same-sex friendships. Differences between genders has always interested me so a lot of things came to my mind while reading this section. The largest thing being how my dad always acts like a jerk around his friends.
Communication is one of the most important aspects in romantic relationships and different communication styles can affect relationships differently. Relationships can be both positively and negatively affected depending on the level of communication between the partners.
- Teaching is not always easy as it may look. Having two teachers is a classroom can be dreadful but can be avoided with formal use of communication. In this day in age, communication is an essential factor that plays in the lives of many people of different occupation. In the teaching world, communication highly recommended in order to bring about successful class instruction. There are however some in the event which a teacher may not having the right coping skills to share with the other teacher in the classroom. Being fully committed may allow many teachers to share their own preference, strengths, and weaknesses.
Communication within a relationship is imperative to its success and the overall outcome experienced by each person and as a couple.
courage and asked her to dance, then as the saying goes the rest was history. They
Anne and Ted have been married for 25 years, dated for 10 and have 3 kids together. On the outside it looks like have the picture-perfect marriage. One day he packed up his things and left their home and relationship of over 30 years with no explanation whatsoever. Couples will think the world of their spouse and build their lives around them only to be disregarded when it suits them. Spouses are left wondering what had happened that made their partners walked out on them after all they have been through and the sacrifices both may have made. This is the time they realized they do not know their partners as they thought they did and all the sacrifices made was not enough to keep them. This is exhibited in the story “The Storm by Kate Chopin where a couple seems to have a perfect marriage, but the wife then she cheats on her husband with her ex-lover. Then they returned to their normal lives not telling neither of their partner about the adultery they committed. In Ernest Hemingway’s “Hills Like White Elephants a couple is having a heated argument about the woman going for an abortion and how that would ease the tension in their relationship that the pregnancy had brought. Calixta’s cheating in “The Storm” sheds light on Hemingway's “Hills Like White Elephants” helping me understand people’s willingness to take risks to sustain relationships, how difficult humans are to please and how unknowingly people live in lies.
Communication is a key part of everybody’s day to day life, it would be impossible to go through a whole day without the use of communication. Communication is classed as the transmission of information from one person to another using various methods such as Emails, person to person talking or even via radio transmission, this is to achieve a mutual understanding and or feedback. Being able to communicate respectably is a needed skill to be able to succeed in general life. Being able to show that you can write concisely but with clarity is a key skill used for writing applications, similarly being to display that you can engage in conversation with confidence in an effective manner is a key requirement in which an employer looks for in an employee. Communication is split into many sections such as, written communication, spoken communication and or a range
Communication is fundamental for forming human relationships and those relationships are formed by effective communication. Everyday we share information and knowledge with our families, friends, coworkers, and sometimes create new relationships with strangers. People communicate with one another to express their thoughts and emotions, and as a result, helps us to understand the ideas and feelings of others. In Season 2, Episode 14 of the comedy The Real O’Neals, “The Real Heartbreak,” Kenny goes through his first breakup with boyfriend, Brett. Valentine’s Day is coming soon and Kenny becomes over dramatic about spending the day alone so he reluctantly decides to join Jimmy and Pat, his brother and father, respectively, to a Lonely Hearts