Conversations Reflection Paper A conversation is a part of every day life, whether it’s a positive or negative dialogue between two people or a group of people is bound to happen. Communication is a part of life, it’s how we interact, participate and express our ideas and thoughts. It’s how we attain self confidence and self awareness, acceptability and accountability is carried out by conversation. The last memorable positive conversation I had recently, was with my son’s father. After years of having a difficult time communicating and staying connected with him, it went pleasantly well to my surprise. My ex has spent the last six almost seven years sporadically being a part time dad to our son. When I say ‘part time’ I mean that he …show more content…
What increased the trust between us, has been that he had to be a man of his word, take accountability for his actions. I had guidelines implemented because I now have full custody of our son, he has to abide by my rules. There are requisitions for him to complete before he can see our son. To begin any kind of relationship with us, my ex has to be in contact with us first by phone and once he is following the bare minimum i.e. texting, phone calls for a consecutive of six months, and only at that time can we discuss visitations. The trust was slowly rebuilt by his attending counselling. It took me quite sometime to build rapport with him, I now see him as an individual who has suffered as a child. I am no longer looking at him with judgment, I have accepted the let down and disappointments. I have compassion for him now and that made our recent communication that much more enjoyable. The most negative conversation I have had, is also unfortunately with my son’s father. It was negative and painful for me to tell this man he is not allow to see our son until he follows and completes my guidelines. Of course he felt rejected and guilty but fortunately for the greater good of our son’s well being, eventually he started cooperating with my request. The conversation was negative because I had to go into great detail of how ashamed he must feel to have missed out on so much. It was both ugly and challenging due to the fact that my ex felt somewhat entitled to
Don’t go into and talk about what else your ex is doing in their life. Stick to the theme off seeing your new relationship as a business relationship; it is best to keep your business and personal life separate. When you talk, keep your conversations focused on your children and their needs; the time for sharing and caring about each other’s personal needs is gone. Make Requests Change the way you ask your ex to do things for your children. Instead of making demands of your ex, make requests.
My interpersonal skills, accelerated to a level of advancement as my responsibilities were centered on verbally engaging patients and their families regarding health issues. To gain an accurate picture of health status I had to utilize persuasive communication to skillfully abstract needed information during the triage process. On occasions, I had to concisely, communicate information with patients and/or families regarding health status and at times that was very uncomfortable. I remember on two occasions I had to accompany the physician in relaying news of the termination of life concerning family members and then was given the task of comforting the families until the hospital clergy arrived.
Accepting the things you cannot change will free up a lot of your emotional energy that is best used to benefit your kids. It will also release a lot of stress that makes an amicable, working relationship with your ex extremely difficult.
You have the power to do this. All you have to do is be smart about how and when you communicate with your ex. Keep it down to business, and I promise your mutual love for your children will get you through even the toughest times!
I remember one time, my wife and I gotten into a big argument, that both of us did not want to speak to each and we gave each other the silent treatment. Worthington (2005) states the importance for communication in marriage, “People communicate to meet their needs. High on the list of needs is giving and receiving love. It is precisely that need in which troubled couples are deficient.” According to Gary Chapman (2008) one of the reason why married couples do not communicate is because resentment, “Often it is unmet needs in the marital relationship that have stimulated resentment in the spirit of the silent spouse…these are the inner emotional reasons why he or she is not talking.” The five basic needs Chapman mentions that every person has are love, freedom, significance, recreation, and peace with God. If the spouse is intruding in any way for their spouse to have an unmet need in the marital relationship, the spouse ends up being uncommunicative. This is important because if the spouse that feels that the resentment can grow to something more. Dr. Norman Wise executive director and counselor for Living Water Christian Counseling has mention many times ins his seminars that the emotions you have towards someone is due to the story you have told yourself about that person. The danger of keeping an unresolved resentment can lead to bigger issues. Worthington (2205) state, “Negative thoughts feed on themselves, attracting other negative thoughts like a feeding frenzy of
Dumlao, Rebecca. Botta, Renee.”Family communication patterns and the conflict styles young adults use with their fathers.” Communication Quarterly. Vol. 48 no. 2 Spring 2000: 174-189.
When I first began to take on the role of a counsellor, I did not use silences effectively, often finding them to be awkward and off-putting. These silences encouraged me to want to laugh or make a joke to lighten the feeling in the room. However as time is progressing and more experience as a counsellor is being gained, I am beginning to use silences effectively. Actively taking the use of silence as an opportunity to gather my thoughts of the situation and where the session is leading to next.
- Teaching is not always easy as it may look. Having two teachers is a classroom can be dreadful but can be avoided with formal use of communication. In this day in age, communication is an essential factor that plays in the lives of many people of different occupation. In the teaching world, communication highly recommended in order to bring about successful class instruction. There are however some in the event which a teacher may not having the right coping skills to share with the other teacher in the classroom. Being fully committed may allow many teachers to share their own preference, strengths, and weaknesses.
According to Severi, C. (2013), “Communication involves an understanding of the intentions of someone, and it leads to the acquisition of new knowledge (not only to the repetition of the task)”.
The findings were that though co parenting is often a portrait of difficulty or even and unobtainable situation effective communication is essential to transitioning into this new parental role, in a manner which is in the best interest of the children. As the article points out, it is helpful to love your children more than you dislike your former spouse, there will be many occasions over the years were the both of you will most likely have interaction on the behalf of the child, so why not make it amicable, thus modeling respectful and effective communication for the child. The article, also mentions that if parents were able to put their differences aside and view the relationship from a business point of view and make requests rather than demands, respect the other parent in public, and in private, then the children are not caught between the two and free to love both parents freely. Effective communication could lead to better co-parenting and in the process build a more amicable relationship between
Former presidential speech writer and author, James C. Humes, once said, “The art of communication is the language of leadership.” Communication is essential to business as well as interpersonal relationships. The ability to express oneself with coherence and cogency is of the utmost importance to your professional and personal success. Effective communication solves and also prevents problems. Think back to all those times you endured a conflict with a person or institution as a result of poor communication or a complete lack of communication. When people are not sure what others mean, intend or desire, they are inclined to make a mistake or do something to create an uncomfortable conflict with the other party. The communication tips
Communication occurs everyday with people at work or home. Communication is important for people to pass information and entertainment. This paper will discuss different aspects of communication. These aspects include the explanation of the two communication types and how nonverbal communication can help the communication with others. Another item that will be discussed will involve results based on a survey taken that is on communication.
Communication processes are a fundamental part of virtually every aspect of human social life. It is important to gain knowledge and understanding about how communication works within certain relationships. There are many factors that play into how people communicate with one another. Gender and gender stereotyping effect how men and woman communicate and interact in many settings.
For a sincere seeker, conversations may slowly turn into silence. As one follows the Ashtanga marg of yama and niyama, harsh,useless, meaning less and abusive speech is not done. Unrestrained speech and false conversation spoils the quality of meditation as these conversations plays back in the mind causing agitation and restlessness. The more one tries to curb these conversations more it springs up. From a meditator one becomes a mediator -trying to negotiate between volley of thoughts and the desire to be silent.
Communications is defined as the “act of using words, sounds, signs, or behaviors express or exchange information or to express your ideas, thoughts, feelings, etc., to someone else;” in other words, communication (Merriam-Webster, 2015). Communication is something that many people overlook and argue to be unessential to learn about; I have to argue otherwise. Communication is the thing that allows us to express our emotions, feelings, and opinions to others in a variety of ways. There are multitudes of ways that communication can be interpreted ranging, but not limited to nonverbal communication to systems of symbols (Survey of Communication Study/Chapter 2 - Verbal Communication, 2000). During this course, I have acquired a comprehensive understanding of the meaning of Communications, and how it is interpreted into our daily lives. Not only that, but during week two of this course, we set personal goals that we wanted to achieve by the end of the quarter. Being a Nursing major, communication is crucial, especially concerning that the majority of my time will be consisted of talking and working with patients. Not only can I say that my personal goals have been achieved, but I took more out of this class than was expected.