When one goes to college you are expected to socialize and make friends. The media portrays college as a new experience where students should engage in opportunities outside of their comfort zone. Being at UCLA is such an accomplishment because individuals like myself who are from low socio-economic backgrounds are often not expected to get this far. However for many Caucasian folks, going to college is what is expected. As soon as I moved into UCLA, I isolated myself from the “typical college experience.” I took this project as an opportunity to go out of my comfort zone and break the social norm of common courtesy by opening up to random floor-mates in their dorm rooms at 11 p.m. If I was not in the Freshman Summer Program or a Chicano …show more content…
I wanted to gain a strong reaction from people, whether it was positive or negative. I decided I would randomly walk in to the first six doors that were unlocked at 11 p.m., which is considered study/quiet hour on the fifth floor in De Neve Holly and tell my peers that FSP was just too intense, and that I most likely would not return in the fall. I broke the social norm of common courtesy. When striking up a conversation with a stranger there is a time and a place for everything, which is definitely not 11 p.m. Their reactions of astonishment and concern stunned me, not only because it was a random thought, but I also barged into their rooms very late without ever really having talked to them. Surprisingly, not one single person turned me away. Instead, many kept me for thirty minutes up to an hour, arguing that I am here for a bigger purpose and that everything would get better. Even though I did not feel this way and I valued my opportunities, their urgency in trying to persuade me to stay gave me hope that we are all here to help each other …show more content…
Many students, including myself have the preconceived notion that all Caucasians hold “white privilege” where everything comes easy to them. According to Carnevale and Strohl, “Compared with equally qualified white students, African-American and Hispanic students not only have less access to postsecondary education in general, but in addition less access to the 468 elite colleges, less access to Bachelor’s degrees, and less access to graduate degrees.” Since we see Caucasians as having an advantage, not only will the fact that they barged into their room at an unreasonable hour bother them, but the statement made will also anger them. Being in FSP we come from schools that didn't give us all of the resources needed to prosper once we left high school. Specifically the Los Angeles Unified School District, which my school was under, did not offer the same resources that other districts offered where more Caucasians attended (Ramon and Hunt 387). So it would be uncommon for someone Caucasian to give up so easily when most come to school with an advantage, whereas many from FSP come with many expecting us to fail. Carnevale and Strohl explain this, “Lower-income African-American and Hispanic students just don’t do as well as lower-income whites. We find that white students (45%) in the lower
In “Community and Diversity”, Rebekah Nathan explores the sense of “community” that universities try to force onto students with social events and activities. From her observations, she implies that students seem to dissociate themselves from these activities which minimizes their opportunities to socialize with new people. She argues that inspite of the attempts colleges make in
Adam Gorlick in “ Got an hour? Boost your grades. Stanford psychologists design 60-minute exercise that raises GPAs of minority student” talks about the transition from high school to college and the difficulties many students face. In his article Adam Gorlick brings up various questions many freshman ask for example, will they fit in but also brings up the issue of being a minority in a new college campus. He later goes on to talk about how these situations during the transition to college are situations that everyone goes through.
As a society we set standards to how an individual should present themselves in any setting they may be attending. A professor name James M. Henslin (2015), explained in a text book that a norm is an expectation that we set of “right” behavior within any setting (49). A norm violation can vary in many situations from affecting a person’s hearing, sight, smell, taste, personal space or just making an individual uncomfortable. Presenting a different type of behavior that is “enforced because they are thought essential to core values or the wellbeing of a group” (51) may be a different view of defining a norm violation.
For my breaching social norm experiment I was determined to do something I would never do even if it was a dare, especially since my ability to interact with strangers is not the best. So, I decided to make people feel uncomfortable by holding their hand. What I would do is walk up to the person from behind and slowly make my way to their hand to make them feel even more uncomfortable. People normally hold hands with their significant other, or with someone they know like a friend or family member, so to be holding hands with a stranger is out of the ordinary and awkward.
Melanie states that “college isn’t so much an academic life , but it’s also a very social and emotional part of who you are , too.” She explains that college isn't about only education but also is socializing with others and knowing yourself. College students also have the rights to socialize with people and
College provides a person with an opportunity to improve oneself. By having the freedom to enjoy and interact with people from different social backgrounds, economic classes and views in life, one develops maturity and social skills that will help later in life. Interaction with these diverse groups of people allows one to develop social skills that will take someone further in life than being around homogenous people your whole life. Washington Post writer, Valerie Strauss, states in her article, “the maturity of students… is the real purpose of
For my breaching social norm experiment, I was determined to do something I would never do even if it was a dare, especially since my ability to interact with strangers is not what I consider advanced. So, I decided to make people feel uncomfortable by holding their hand. What I would do is walk up to the person from behind and slowly make my way to their hand to make them feel even more uncomfortable. People normally hold hands with their significant other, or with someone they know, like a friend or family member, so to be holding hands with a stranger is infrequent and abnormal.
To break the social norm, I went trick or treating in the mall, wearing a Halloween costume. I broke the social norm by not trick or treating on Halloween. The social norm is to trick or treat on Halloween. To break this norm, I went to the mall and went trick or treating in three stores. I said “trick or treat” to any customer and worker who was in the store as well as wore a Wonder Women costume. At the mall, people walk around, look in stores, and buy clothes or any kind of merchandise. The typical norms at the mall are that when you see a person or an employee in a store, you say “Hello”, “Good Morning”, “Good Afternoon”, or “Good Evening”. Trick or treating and wearing a costume not on Halloween and at the mall is considered to be deviant.
In these dorms, the initial interactions that socially code us throughout college are initiated. These social interactions create and solidify bonds between students that can continue for the rest of their lives. A change to the demographics of the freshman dorms doesn’t just create an immediate effect, but also affects every current and future resident of UC Davis. A freshmen social group that is initially less diverse will lead to a less diverse group of friends throughout the remaining years of their undergraduate studies. This reduces their social group to a less diverse group of individuals, which reduces the chance for them to interact with other cultures and overcome any form of culture shock that they are affected by, whether it be here in UC Davis or later in their careers. Freshmen dorms are the only place that nurtures cultural interaction to create a UC Davis community that is ultimately more unified, accepting, and respectful of all people and their different cultures.
Harry Patel 9/03/2008 Sociology 101, section 8 Social Norms: Conformity and Deviance One of the norms I broke was talking to someone in a public bathroom, while peeing. It was very ocward talking to the guy next to me. One of the reason I felt ocward talking to him was because, you are not suppose to talk to the guy next to you. While you are doing your business you look at the wall in front of you. When you are done you wash your hands, and leave. No one talks to anyone they don’t know, even if they do know the person next to them they won’t talk to them while they are peeing. No one was taught to do this, you learned by observing. But when the guy next to you starts talking you don’t know how to react. That’s how the guy next to me
Pelina and Nicole were less hesitant to blame their college struggle on race directly. While they both understood that race creates barrier in the society they did not attribute that to their hardships faced in college. They listed other outside sources such as income, network, motivation, and one’s brain capacity. But both emphasize that class, not race, is the main contributor to student’s performance in college. Although it may not be direct, there is no doubt a relationship between class and race that we cannot ignore. In his article, Race, Socioeconomic Status and Health: Complexities, Ongoing Challenges and Research Opportunities, David Williams explain that while looking at the data from 1998 -2006 “Both blacks and Hispanics have levels of overall poverty that are two to three times higher than those of whites. Asians have poverty levels that are generally comparable to those of the white population” (pg. 6) . He goes further in explaining these disparities and mentions that “Among persons with income in the bottom 20% of all US households, for every dollar of
When offered the opportunity to shake someone’s foundation a bit by testing social norms I was initially hesitant. I thought to myself what could I possibly do that would meet the requirements for the assignment and not utterly embarrass me in the process. As luck would have it I was stuck in yet another endless meeting at work. I found my mind wandering to my “to do list” as often happens in these situations. I remembered this assignment and thought to myself…why not. I then opted to never break contact with people I worked with for an entire day. What better place to start then in a meeting where my victims were essentially trapped.
Laws are the written rules that are used to create a functioning society and avoid chaos and anarchy. As a society, we also have unwritten “laws” that we follow in order to live peacefully among each other. These unwritten “laws” are called social norms. For example, you wouldn’t be breaking any laws by wearing pajamas to work, but you would be breaking a social norm. Different races, cultures, genders, age, and sexual orientations have different social norms that are expected to abide by.
Besides the actions of a few, society has laid a clear set of guidelines regarding acceptable social behavior. Obviously there are always exceptions, and the purposeful breaking of these social norms can be seen as humorous. Although, not all people find the breaking of these norms as comical. Someone could become offended, uncomfortable, and possibly question the perpetrators sanity. Some of these social norms are such common practice that most don’t realize they follow them in everyday activities. This past weekend I personally broke one of these norms and as predicted the social responses that followed were both awkward and uncomfortable for both parties. In America the socially appropriate beach etiquette would involve proper attire such as a swimsuit, towel, possibly some kind of bag, etc… Also in America the only socially acceptable time to wear a costume is usually restricted to Halloween or planned events, but the overall consensus of the costume is to be a humorous and fun. This past weekend I decided to incorporate both of these norms in my experiment. My experiment involved wearing my halloween costume (Cat In
Don’t know what people want, or what is expected, I want to walk this life bare-naked, to remain undetected, Questioning why people want me to act normal, to conform, I feel puzzled and broken, not knowing the social norm. I want to find the answers, so I am pondering, Do not interrupt me, in my mind, I’m wandering. When my thoughts are burning, itching, Don’t want wounds that need stitching, Sometimes when I am on the edge of safe, At those moments, it’s love that I crave.