The essay “Being an Other” was written by Melissa Algranati. She is a graduate of the State University of New York at Birmingham and has a master’s degree from Colombia University. The reason as to why she wrote this particular essay was to discuss and describe her experiences of not fitting easily into any particular identity group. Her intended audience are those individuals who seem to have difficulties feeling part of a group. The text was originally published in Thomas Dublin’s “Becoming American, Becoming Ethnic: College Students Explore Their Roots.” Algranati’s identity crisis led her to publish this essay and more importantly show what it was like to be mistaken for another ethnic background. She goes on to make the noteworthy argument, …show more content…
Her mother was granted automatic U.S. citizenship as all Puerto Ricans are, however due to her social status and not knowing English many “real” Americans did not consider her a citizen. Once she perfected her English she was considered everything but a Puerto Rican. For instance, Algranati states “My mother is what people call a “white Hispanic. With her blonde hair and blue eyes my mother was taken for everything but a Puerto Rican” (146). This goes to show that most individuals will jump to conclusions before even speaking to you. Experiences that she and her family have experienced have changed the perception she has of herself. Being mistaken for various ethnicities has really made her doubt who she actually is. Algranati states “Possessing light hair and blue eyes, I am generally perceived as the “all American” girl. Occasionally I have been mistaken for Italian since my last name, Algranati, although Sephardic, has a very Italian flair to it” (147). It is because of those perceptions that others have had of her, that has led her to have personal identity issues. Due to those perceptions that people have had on her she consciously or unconsciously has felt isolated from her own ethnic groups. She now feels like she does not belong in a certain group and has difficulties relating any experiences with others. Algranati states “By being diverse I have learned that in a society that is obsessed with classification the only way I will find my place is within myself”
Sometimes, there is a person in the world who struggles with who he/she is really are and they are willing to do whatever it takes to figure out what type of person they are suppose to be, let alone they want to be. Take Jeanne for example, she was one of the few Japanese victims to be sent to an internment camp during WW1 called Manzanar. In the ‘Farewell to Manzanar’ book, Jeanne struggles with her identity as a Japanese-American and realizes that she will never be fully American because of the prejudice she experiences. It has been a thing that keeps bugging her, ever since she was sent to
There is a very different perception of the others as presented by the issue in the Miss Columbia School. Others are seen as the no Americans and particularly the non-whites who are seen to be inferior and cannot be compared to the American citizens. The male figure that is seen to
Gabi A Girl in Pieces Essay In the novel Gabi A Girl in Pieces, by Isabel Quintero, an important relationship is with Gabi and her mother. The key events in the story, such as her father's drug problem, her Mexican-American culture, and her senior of high school and going off to college. Gabi goes through a lot in order to build a better relationship with her mom.
In the boiling pot of America most people have been asked “what are you?” when referring to one’s race or nationality. In the short story “Borders” by Thomas King he explores one of the many difficulties of living in a world that was stripped from his race. In a country that is as diverse as North America, culture and self-identity are hard to maintain. King’s short story “Borders” deals with a conflict that I have come to know well of. The mother in “Borders” is just in preserving her race and the background of her people. The mother manages to maintain her identity that many people lose from environmental pressure.
“Other,” defined by Encyclopedia of Identity in the chapter “Other, The” as “(which can refer to just one person or a group of people) is directly related to personal identity and how a person defines himself or herself” (“Other, The” 2). The book argues that being defined as other can be seen as something positive and can be something related to being unique, and a “motivation by the self to categorize and cognitively organized” (“Other, The” 2. However, this is not always the case. Othering is most commonly seen in the concepts of the “in-group favoritism” and “outgroup bias.” In-group favoritism, which can be thought of as the group that has the most similarities as oneself or whom one defines themselves as; their identity and out-group as those who do not share as most commonality. Othering can also affect younger generations because they are whom is learning from watching the othering.
She spoke about how when she was younger people would make fun of her hair because it was long and that hurt her a lot, even though in her religion the girl’s beauty is represented by her hair. She said that she cut her hair to fit in, and she was happy at first, but then she was sad because she cut the only thing that made her beautiful. It made me sad because how cruel children could be to someone else. But the kids didn't know any better. I also understood what she went through because I am an immigrant and when my family came to America when I was three, we didn't know English, and for many years I had a really thick accent that I was ashamed of and kids made fun of. Then I tried harder and harder to try to get rid of the accent, I eventually stopped talking Spanish, even in my house because I wanted to speak perfectly in English, I was ashamed of my culture as well for a few years, I didn't let people know I was Dominican because most of the people in my class were Americans and I was trying to fit in. Eventually when I got to High School I was self confident and didn't care what people thought of my accent. I was proud again of saying that I was Hispanic and that I spoke Spanish, something that I was embarrassed to say for a few
Identity is essential for people to be comfortable with themselves, stand out as individuals and connect to certain communities or cultures. In the book, Visible Identities, Linda Alcoff theorizes about topics such as, the role of race in society, the black and white binary, and benefit of communities formed around shared identities. Simone de Beauvoir’s concept of the Other, in her book, The Second Sex, also theorizes about identity and the separation that grows between different groups. In this concept, one group determines that itself is the One and anyone who does not fit into that group is the Other.
The first thing that comes to mind when reading this story is language. I have a cousin that is related to me as I should say but I don’t talk Spanish at all. My cousin Lisa she is having the same problem like Maria as she quoted “You can leave the island of Puerto Rico, master the English language, and travel as far as you can, but if you’re a Latina, …. The island travels with you”. My cousin Lisa born and raised and in D.R now came to the U.S have the same exact problem about trying to fit in with us Americans but it’s very hard she said trying to speak proper English and knowing how to coordinate with clothing.
In a society which inherently seeks to categorise individuals, it is paramount that each person finds their genuine place in the world. The most powerful influences that impact on an individual’s sense of belonging include identity and heritage. It is a part of humanity which makes us desire to want to belong to a social, religious or even racial group which ultimately forms the person we become. Renowned author Carlson McCullers reflects these ideas. “I think the idea of wanting to belong haunts every child. And not only children. I think it is the primary question. 'Who am I? What am I? And where do I belong?”It is of grave importance that we understand we are simply mere shadows of
A person’s family, race, culture, and life style within a society or a community are just a few factors that give him or her an identity. Coming to terms with understanding one’s identity is not simple because of the many factors defining it and might take one’s whole life to finally understand who he or she is. “Girl” by Jamaica Kincaid and “My Two-Lives” by Jhumpa Lahiri are both writing pieces that have characters who share these conflicting factors of identification yet still have very different views on which of these factors are more valuable to allow them to be accepted in their societies or communities.
I saw, The Other Woman, written by, David Ives, at the UCM Blackbox Theatre on November 3, 2017. Connor Bosworth directed the show, and did a great job. The story surrounds an author who is met by his sleepwalking wife. She seems to be a completely different person, and when she wakes up in the morning she doesn’t remember a thing. He writes about his nights with her in his story, and lies to his wife saying that nothing happened. She seems to know what is going on, though she never admits it, and becomes depressed. Then a month passes without a sound, until we’re met by her sleeping alter-ego once again. The husband responds as he normally does, trying comfort her, then she reveals that she isn’t actually sleep walking this time. They get in an argument, but she starts going back and forth between her sleep walking persona and her awake one until she ends up in the former, who asks to sleep with his as they had before his awake wife got depressed, but this time he refuses to give in. Crap, this was supposed to be without spoilers, my bad.
This series investigates our culture’s perception of “the other and otherness” and how prescribed labels determine society’s behavior toward a social group because of race, gender, sex, class, and religion. When someone is perceived to challenge the dominant group’s value and beliefs, they are marginalized and excluded. This exclusion leads to social groups without a political voice with fewer rights like not being able to marry someone that is the same sex or people of different race and class not having the right to vote. To explicitly challenge
One might argue that to stand out is better than to fit in, but what good is it to stand out if a person is unfairly judged according to the principles of a cultural mainstream? With this, a person might find themselves trying to fit in by pretending to be someone they are not. Individuals put on a fake identity, in hopes that in doing so, they are given a fair chance to get what they want. Life can be hard for a person who chooses not to play their role assigned to them within their mainstream, as their every action is being judged by society under a microscope. If an individual’s true identity fails to assimilate to the cultural mainstream, they might find themselves being hindered by society on their path to success.
Everyday I am on a constant race to discover who I am as an individual. I am fighting this battle whether I choose to acknowledge it or not. Donald Hernandez has written in his book Children of Immigrants: Health, Adjustment, and Public Assistance; he talks about major key points, but the most important one state “Third, because life chances differ greatly according to race and ethnicity in the United States, and because of the race and ethnic composition of immigrants to this country has shifted markedly during recent decades,” (3). That is true trying to be one thing is very hard in USA society has an effect of how you may become as the individual. If I were in another country they would just see as an American and nothing else, but the place that I was born and raised they see me as what my parents are Nigerians. I am not American because my parents are from Nigeria; this has been a very constant thing, because of several definitions of what it
“Otherness is constructed by human interaction and social categories and only ever exists in relation to a certain social order. It is thus a social construct that is employed consciously and unconsciously in identity formation, as both individuals and groups define themselves through delimitation of and opposition towards the mythical Other in order to create an identity for themselves (Rana 1).”