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Bad Relationships In Someone Like You

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Causes of Bad Relationship
A bad relationship may develop without your notice. In the film ‘Someone Like You’, the most obvious example is the relationship between Ray and Jane. The breakdown is not a sudden effect, but a gradual development.
It all starts with the imbalance of giving. According to Cher Carter-Scott, dangers arises when one person gives too little in a relationship. In the movie, Jane invests everything, including her heart, body (sex) and future life (cohabitation). However, Ray is the opposite. All he can give is the short-term excitement and passion. As Robert Solomon suggested, their desire mismatch leads to coordination problem.
Their love-at-first-sight relationship also lacks a strong foundation to overcome challenges. Applying Robert Sternberg’s triangular theory of love, Ray and Jane’s form of love is Romantic Love (intimacy + passion). In their first meeting, they feel attracted to one another. Eventually intimacy grows and they start dating. The process is filled with passion. However, Ray is not ready for commitment. He never has a clear cut with Diane. Jane feels unsafe and uncertain as the triangular relationship continues. The bond between Ray and Jane gets weaker day by day, such that any quarrels can break it easily.
The key to further worsen the relationship is poor communication. Taking the case of cohabitation …show more content…

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