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Angry Fathers Mel Lazarus, writer of Angry Fathers, showed by describing his relationship between him and his father, as he recalled an incident that happened when he was 9 years old, back in 1938, when corporal punishment was most used to correct bad behavior, “They’ll live, don’t worry “, was the common idea, that event marked his relationship and trust with his father for life. Lazarus’ family stayed at a boarding house in Catskills for the summer during school vacations, and he and two buddies were hanging out one August afternoon, bored. So what they decided to do was engage in a little remodeling, as the owner of the place was furious, the three mothers basically decided to let their husbands discipline the boys. The
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That was not his way, Although many years has passed since then, corporal punishment still being used sometimes with hard consequences, often we notice on television real cases of parents going too far, they are different ways that corporal punish is used, the most popular is within the family, typically children punished by parents or guardians; within the schools when students are punished by teachers or administrators’ or as part of a criminal sentence ordered by a court of law. Corporal punishment of minors within domestic settings is lawful in all 50 states and widely approved by parents. “They’ll live, don’t worry “, Stanishly the consequences of corporal punishment are vivid, a 14% of all men in prison in the USA were abuse as children, 36% of all women in prison were abused as children and of course children who experience child abuse are 59% more likely to be arrested as a juvenile, and 28% more likely to be arrested as an adult. On the other hand we were very fortunate that my parents had the same level of understanding when it came to punishing us, (we were five kids growing up together), I called my sisters Nora and Veronica, to asked them if they recalled my parents ever punishing us that way, but they told me as I remembered, our parents used discipline on a different way, even then,
During this time parents would often beat and spank their children. Physical punishment was much more common during this time and was not looked down upon by society. Parents and school teachers were more likely to discipline a child by spanking or paddling them. This taught children that misbehavior would lead to consequences and would therefore decrease bad behavior. One article states, “Teachers could paddle a student who was unruly and disrespectful, and we lived by the covenant if one of us got in trouble at school — that was nothing compared to what we would face at home” (Sutherland). This kind of action would not be seen today. While this kind of punishment has been around for a long time and has changed which makes it unique during the 60’s. Some doctors and psychologists have debated over this for many years and some have even changed their ideas throughout time. One example can be seen through Dr. Spock. Lauren Steele explains, “But when the first generation of Spock-raised babies turned into the rebellious teens of the 1960s and 1970s got to the scene, Dr. Spock’s ideas took a hit from the stricter, more regimented experts” (Steele). Originally Spock said that children did not need harsh punishment and that parents’ instincts were usually correct. After an era of not hitting the children became rebellious and rabble rousers which opened
In the works of Alistair MacLeod, Alden Nowlan, and Aaron Smith, each author establishes that the difficulty within parent-child relationships is a result of the differences between adult and child mentalities. Due to vast life experience, the parental figures in all three texts possess fixed, personal notions of what is morally correct, which clashes with the growth mindset of the children and incites miscommunication in the relationship.
On October 1, 1970, Solomon Barnes the Assistant Principal at Charles R. Drew Junior High School enforced corporal punishment upon sixteen boys in the boy’s bathroom at the school. One of the sixteen boys was Roosevelt Andrews. One of Roosevelt’s teachers accused Roosevelt of being late to class, but Roosevelt said he still had a couple of minutes to get to class when he was taken in to the boy’s bathroom. When Roosevelt refused paddling, Assistant Principal Solomon hit Roosevelt on his arm, back, and across his neck.
As we have learned in the first module, in every state in the US, the law allows parents to use “reasonable” corporal punishment against their children as long as they do not inflict dangerous, long-term physical damage. We also know that each state has their own child abuse statues. After doing some research, the Texas statue states that parents have a legal right to “responsibly discipline” their child as long as the force is reasonable. However any intentional physical contact that causes bodily injury or extreme physical pain to a child can be prosecuted as a criminal act. Based on the information provided in the case study, I do not feel that the punishment was appropriate. A child, who is 4 years old, developmentally is still learning how to manage and express his emotions. Mr. Peterson reported that the incident was consistent with his parenting style and as an appropriate means of teaching his children right from wrong. Mr. Peterson’s son was arguing over a VIDEO GAME with his brother, a common behavior that most kids engage in at that age. I certainly do not feel that a severe beating with a switch constitutes reasonable discipline for this type of “normal behavior” of a 4 year old. I feel that Mr. Peterson’s behavior was demonstrating to both children that how you handle arguments is through violence.
The relationship between a parent and their child is a very important relationship in anyone’s life. An example of children being affected by their relationships with their parents is evident in the following pieces of work. Death of a Salesman and The Apprenticeship of Duddy Kravitz both share similarities between the father and son relationships shown within the novels. The two books both share the idea of having false ideals within the relationship between a father and son, the father does not treat women with any respect, therefore the son follows in his footsteps, and the relationships simply lack a bond between father and son. Death of a Salesman by Arthur Miller and The Apprenticeship of Duddy Kravitz by Mordecai Richler, show significant
Anywhere in people’s lives, whether it’s in a movie, a book, or in real life, there are children having a problem with their parents. For books and movies, it adds extra tension and drama between characters, and in real life, it’s an everyday situation that occurs frequently throughout parent and childhood. However, these tensions between parents and their children can have serious effects. In the book That Was Then, This Is Now, written by S.E. Hinton, one of the characters, M&M, changes everyone’s lives because he was running away from his father’s mean comments. Though this conflict had many sources throughout the book, the tension between M&M and his father causes changes in the lives of other characters, and drastically impacted the storyline
One example of this is seen when each of the six girls get jobs (at different times and years) at a local restaurant waitressing. The mother was, “angry that my sisters should even conceive of working in such a place, and more angry when my father made no move to prevent it, and she was worried about herself and about her family and about her life” (113). This passage highlights a couple of things; the anger the mother feels that her daughters are not sharing her views on working, as well as her attitude towards her husband not standing up for her. In traditional families, usually the role of disciplinary falls onto the father, however, the mother’s anger at her husband seems to stem from something deeper.
Culture incorporates many different aspects of life such as religion, food, language, ethnicity, and many more. All of these aspects influence the way a person lives and acts. Although culture provides a positive influence by bestowing self worth, it could also negatively affect someone’s life. Culture affects a person in many ways by creating internal and external conflict, which influences the way others view them and therefore affects their actions and how they feel about themselves.
In Eric Bartels’s’ “My Problem With Her Anger,” and Hope Edelman’s “The Myth of Co-Parenting,” the two discuss their experiences with being a parent, with and without their partner’s help. While the family structures differ between the two authors, both of them have a common theme in their lives: anger, and lots of it. So, the question remains: Is it always better for parents to be around their children often? If so, what if said parents are too rough with their children?
The articles “My Father the Dope Dealer” and “My Father’s Double Life” prove that parents’ actions can have a negative effect on their children. First, "My Father the Dope Dealer" illustrates the negative effects of parents' actions on their child. Tony talks about how his "public-school friends called [him] 'poor boy'" and how he was the kid who didn’t “have money for lunch and had an AWOL father whose name [his] mother seldom mentioned” (Dokoupil 5). Tony wasn’t treated well in school because of the legacy his father had left behind.
There was a law in Massachusetts that stated, “If any children above sixteen years old and of sufficient understanding shall curse or smile at their natural father or mother, they shall be put to death.” (Bremner, 1970, p. 68) . Also, schoolmasters and mistress had the right to use corporal punishment as well. But in today society corporal punishment is no longer allowed and when there have been so many types of child abuse that children go through either by someone one close to them or a
The main idea and subject of this article is that parents with unjust harsh punishment techniques cause present and future issues for their children. The article discusses poverty stricken families have harsher techniques in parenting when compared to middle and higher classes. “...parents who live in poverty treat their children harshly more often, researchers say” (Inquirer 1). These punishments may have more than just some tears or a temporary wound. “When parents are too consistently harsh, their children's brains release stress chemicals…these chemicals are released when a person is in danger. These chemicals are toxic, or poisonous, to developing brains.
Corporal punishment in these days has been becoming a topic in many old timers talks. Many believe that it helps and is definitely the way to go. The older generations still seem to believe that society would be better off if kids still got punished the way they did. They refuse to ignore data that has not supported the clams they bring up about making children better behaved or as they call it “Straightening them up”. Many believe that our liberal democracy population has views that are not valid and that the old ways need to come back to help us grow.
Parenting, lauded as one of the most difficult jobs in the world, means constantly being under the scrutiny of others, including your children’s friends. This is no different for the parenting styles of Atticus Finch, Bob Ewell, and Walter Cunningham, three parents from Harper Lee’s critically acclaimed novel To Kill A Mockingbird. Three different parentings styles led to three different types of children: the curious minded, the rascals, and the respectable, showing that how a parent treats their child and others in their lives does matter.
Corporal punishment has been used excessively in the past, changing the way people look at it. In the article, “Corporal Punishment Still Used in Florida”, an incident happened when a mother gave the school permission to paddle her fourth-grade son. After finding out that there were bruises on her son’s behind, she regretted letting the school paddle her son. She didn’t know she was putting her son in danger when she allowed the school to paddle him. Jones, later on, stated, "There's got to be other ways to discipline kids." (----). Jones was expecting her son to get little swats if he acted up, not huge welts on his behind after being “disciplined”. The punishment went way too far. Another piece of evidence is shown in the