A Story Worth Writing
Have you ever been stuck between two options that are the exact opposite of each other? They are tearing you apart because it is a life or death situation. Do you feel confused or are you worried about what others would think about you getting pregnant out of wedlock? Maybe it was a huge mistake or maybe you cannot properly take care of your child. Whatever situation you are in, if you are deciding between getting an abortion or giving your baby up for adoption, let me tell you what it was like before and after I was adopted from my own experiences.
I grew up in a household where both parents were alcoholics and drug abusers that did not pay much attention to my brother and I. They were both in and out of jail and treatment. They were more worried about the next longneck bottle of beer then their helpless and confused children. It was a bad situation for a couple little kids. You may wonder how it felt to be in this my situation. Well at ages three through five years old there is not much I should remember but sadly it left a big enough impact on my life that I can still smell the hard liquor on my mom’s breath, and hear her slurring her words and her breathing heavily. I can still remember how the house always seemed dark and unhappy. Late at night, I would wonder if when I woke up, if my mom would still be there to hug me one last time. Being in a situation where my biological parents always fought and threw anything within reach at each other.
My mother was an admitted alcoholic when I was a child and loved to party. She abandoned me and my Grandmother took me into her home to raise. My Grandfather was an alcoholic and was verbally abusive to our entire family. My
A woman is more than a fetus. Though a woman might be pregnant with a child, she is still her own person and has every right to decide what she wants to do with her body. Many people argue that having an abortion can be emotionally damaging, however, so can abortion. Women develop an emotional bond with a child when they carry it through the full term and go through an experience of delivery. Giving up that child for adoption might be the only reasonable option for a young girl too immature or poor to raise a child. However, that woman has to live with a feeling of abandoning their child for the rest of her life. In my opinion, having an abortion can be psychologically damaging to a woman; however, giving up a child from adoption is a great deal worse.
Abortion is cruel and outrageous and should not even be illegal. Although the mother and father may have a hard time giving his and her child away to another family, he and she would feel better about their choice to choose adoption. Abortion can leave many mothers and fathers wondering all kinds of questions. Some will wonder “what did my child look like, did they look like me?” “I wonder if the baby was a boy or girl.” “What would my child have done with their life?” “Would they have been a lawyer, judge, doctor, astronaut, etc?” “Would we have been able to give the love and support our child needed from us?” “Would I have been a good mother or father?” Although some of the same questions can be asked when adoption is chosen, but many of these questions can be answered, where with abortion the answer will remain unknown until the end of time.
I didn’t tell many people what was going on at home because I was ashamed of it. On the weekends I would try to go spend the night with one of my grandmothers to get away from my alcoholic father. I rarely invited friends over because I did not know if he was going to get drunk that night or not. Avoiding this potential embarrassment makes me feel like I missed out on having a normal childhood.
As of right now, between one and two million families around the world are awaiting for a new member of their family to adore and cherish. That same child that you might not have been able to sustain and care for could become the daughter or son of a family unable to have children. You are taking your ability to have children for granted, while every one in eight couples have fertility issues. By putting your child up for adoption, you are giving your child a chance at life. Whatever that child will make of it. By ending your pregnancy, you are taking away every chance they could have
Firstly, birth mothers should know that those of us experienced in the field have nothing but respect for your ability to bravely address your situation and that we respect your final decision regardless of what you decide. Birth mothers considering adoption for their unborn children have a wide variety of reasons behind their choice. One of the many reasons is that the pregnancy might be unplanned.
In conclusion, “adoption can change the life of a child in need,” (kyleinicucci.weebly.com). Adoption is an better alternative to getting an abortion. Adoption let’s everyone,such as, single parents or same sex couples have the opportunity to start a family because of infertility or just because they have an caring heart.
If a woman becomes pregnant and does not want the baby some say that they should go through the pregnancy then give the baby up for adoption instead of receiving an abortion. This gives the baby a chance of having a life and there other multiple ways and types of adoptions. If it is not a stable time in one’s life you can have an adoption staying in contact with the adoption parents who will be able to give the baby a better
There are many other safer solutions to abortion. The Arthur stated “ in the USA, there are approximately two million infertile couples waiting to adopt “ (kristi Burton Brown ). Putting the baby on adoption will more than likely give the. A better change of a happy life . selfishness is a solution to a baby's
After this my dad fell in a severe depression and of course started drinking more. Drinking was his escape it took his pain and worries away but for the rest of us it only doubled. My dad has yet to recover from this, he struggles a lot and doesn't even have a place to call his own home or a car. I wish he could come live with us but my mom put a restraining order against him. Although it really hurts me there is not much i can do about it. I'm just grateful he does not live in the streets, as long as he has a roof over his head running water and food then i'm ok. I wasn't the only child who also suffers from this. I have two older sisters who i am thankful to have by my side when life gets hard. They guide me through struggles and conflicts that i deal with on a day to day basis. Both of my sisters already graduated from roosevelt high school. And i am very proud of them for that. I feel truly privileged to call them my sisters. And last but not least my amazing mother. I always consider my mom to be the epitome of a blessing because that's how i truly feel about
Growing up as a child I was not raised in the best environment. Both of my parents had two complete different personalities, but were similar in many ways. Both of my parents dropped out of high-school and I remember them being addicted to alcohol at a very
Due to economic circumstances and my father's alcohol abuse, my family suffered from family problems and emotional pain. My father would come home drunk and argue with my mother about our economic circumstances. I was too young to understand what was occurring between my parents and I grew up believing that this was the typical family. I remember a specific occasion when my dad came home and he said that he was tired of us. He left my mom with my three siblings and I without money and anywhere to go. This situation terrified me and caused me to focus in school to forget about my personal problems. I could not understand how my father could leave us and not care for us. We then lived in someone's garage because we could not afford a home. Throughout
“I still don’t think this is a good idea,” Steve’s voice brought me out of my mental planning.
After Ms. Luella Bates Washington Jones shut the door, she went to sleep. When she woke up at 6 AM, She walked to work and just realized that she’s late.
My parents were driving me to school, then all the sudden I heard a loud thud,glass was everywhere, and there was blood.My parents were screaming I pain and my leg was in so much pain so I couldn’t do anything except watch my parents bleed out and die.Then all the sudden I couldn’t see anything because the debris from the cars were getting into to my eyes and the were starting to black for me and I went unconscious. A couple minutes later a firefighter was yelling to get a tool to open the car door and then I woke up and I was being carried to the ambulance. While I was crying in pain the paramedics dove me to the hospital. I was in so much pain I couldn’t walk, so they put me in a wheelchair and so Aunt Susan took care of me for a while , but she didn’t have enough money to raise me anymore, so she put me up foster care, and the then there were two parents that adopted me.