Coaching of a Woman
Mothers have many lessons to teach their daughters. As the physical changes begin to appear, it is important to begin a new set of lessons. “[D]on’t squat down to play marbles—you are not a boy, you know” is a quote from Jamaica Kincaid’s short story, “Girl”. The mother and daughter are the two main characters. The daughter is reflecting on the many things that her mother instilled in her during her childhood. The ironic use of language in this short story is crucial to understanding the theme of becoming a woman worthy of marriage.
The mother knows that adolescence changes the thoughts of the child and wants to guide her to make positive choices. This is expressed when the mother tells the daughter, “on Sundays try to walk like a lady and not like the slut you are so bent on becoming” (Kincaid 96). This statement is shocking to the reader and is ironic because the mother says the daughter will become a slut but means that she will be viewed a sexual object by men. The mother’s intention is to bring the daughters physical changes to light, so that she can have a better understanding of the way society, especially males, will be viewing her. The changes that are happening to a young girl, will lead to the prospect of
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The mother suggests many things that must be done around the house, including the basics such as laundry and cooking. One of the examples that stood out, was when she tells her daughter “This is how to sweep a corner, this is how to sweep a whole house” (Kincaid 96). The example of sweeping the corner and the whole house area not just instructions on sweeping, they are instilling the fact that women are responsible for all the responsibilities at home, as the man will be the provider. While it is the duty of the woman to keep the house taken care of she is also expected to take care of her
From a young age, our interactions with our parents play an instrumental role in how we perceive ourselves and the world around us. The short story “Girl” by Jamaica Kincaid exhibits the relationship between an Antiguan mother and her daughter in a patriarchal society where the list of rules and regulations for women is exhaustive and almost never-ending. By analyzing the unique and often tense dynamic between the mother and daughter, “Girl” showcases the direct influence mothers have on their children, and how traditional and patriarchal customs can influence that relationship. The main themes are represented by the subjects the mother spends the most time on as well as the overall tone of the piece and how it relates to the mother-daughter
The object of examining gender roles is to answer the question why should women and men be equal and "Are there populations in which men and women are absolutely equal? Are there societies in which women dominate men?" (Gender 238) By understanding the culture in which this piece of literature is written, the gender roles and the rules of behavior for a woman, then the relationships between genders can be realized. The general myth about women and their gender role in the American society is that the mother works in the home and supports her man in every way. For each relationship, the people in that relationship must decide the particular roles that they will play. In the literary work "Girl", Kincaid shows clearly that the woman's role in this work was to serve the family and to work mainly in the house. The mother writing this story tells her daughter that "this is how you iron your father's khaki shirt so that it doesn't have a crease" (Kincaid 489). In this marriage, it is understood that the wife is to do the laundry for the husband. Today's society does not always provide these clear roles since many women work a full time job and the house chores are a responsibility for both to handle. Though the woman is still mainly held responsible for the home. There should be a constant search for equality in gender roles. Kincaid explains how the man is working to bring home the money and the wife supports
Her mother keeps telling her daughter not to do certain stuff, this comes off as being a protective parent. Then the essay takes a turn for the worse, the mother tone comes off with lots of anger and disgust. She becomes angry at her daughter and says, “on Sunday try to walk like a lady and not a slut that you are so bent on becoming” (Kincaid 320). The mother is throwing out so many different emotions at her daughter, at which they are not even true. The daughter is not fighting back with her mother about anything until we get to the middle of the paragraph. The daughter only speaks several times throughout, but when she fought back towards the middle of the paragraph she tells her mother that she is not becoming a slut. People only tend to fight back during these situations to protect themselves against false accusations. But eventually, the mother uses the advice tone to her daughter showing her how to “iron her father’s khaki pants so essay users they don’t have a crease” (Kincaid 320). The mother's tone to her daughter changes in the beginning, middle, and end. It starts out with a helpful tone, then to a strict tone, then to a helpful tone again.
Society is often seen to have different biases or perspectives on topics such as the role and perception of women. The short story, “Girl” by Jamaica Kincaid, consists primarily of a catalog of commands and instructions, the purpose of which is to make sure that the mother’s daughter is constantly in check and not getting into any trouble. Jamaica Kincaid utilizes a wide range of techniques such as symbolism and diction in order to showcase the theme of how the depiction of women rely mainly on how they present themselves in the public and how they are so easily described as impure or filthy.
The power of domesticity determines how girls mother comes to the assumption that domestic mastery will not only save her daughter from a life of licentiousness but will also serve as a way for her to gain respect in the antiguan community. Girl’s mother states the endless list of tasks she needs to maintain throughout her home in order maintain the respectable image her mother seeks after. As stated in the text “Wash the white clothes on monday and put them on the stone heap; wash the color cloths on tuesday and put them on the clothesline to dry”(Kincaid 296). Her mother tells her daughter the way things should be done in order to maintain her important role around her home. Reading her mother's precise list of instructions we can infer the devotion her mother has in the power of domesticity. In our society today and all throughout the world, the image of a woman is sought to be of them staying home and completing numerous tasks around their
A mother’s words are the ones that ring loudest in a child’s ear, are passed down from generation to generation, and the one’s that hold a special place in a child’s memory and heart forever. Expectations and guidelines are set at a young age. Morals and values are learned throughout the years, and life lessons are taught through the wisdom passed down from a mother to a daughter. Every mother has a wish for their daughter to be the best they can be. But at what point does instruction and wisdom become simply words that have been said one too many times? The short story “Girl,” written by Jamaica Kincaid is presented to the reader as a list of instructions from a mother to a daughter on how to live life to the
Written in 1983, Kincaid narrates the thoughts and moral beliefs of the time by her mother. In Girl, Kincaid uses repetition of the term “slut” to emphasize that her mother did not want her to develop a bad moral reputation (Kincaid 118-119). Later in the narration though are her mother’s thoughts on abortion, “this is how to make a good medicine to throw away a child before it even becomes a child” (Kincaid 119). It shows that while the mother instructed her in moral principles, she also understood that things happen to a young woman. The practical nature of this instruction seems to indicate more modern thought while still living in a society of traditions. Another hint of the time period is the mention of divorce and how to live after it, “this is how you love a man…and if they don’t work out, don’t feel bad about giving up” (Kincaid 119). This could indicate that divorce is an accepted practice in the more modern society that Jamaica Kincaid wrote Girl in.
In Jamaica Kincaid’s short story “Girl,” the narration of a mother lecturing her daughter with sharp, commanding diction and unusual syntax, both affect the evolution of a scornful tone, that her daughter’s behavior will eventually lead her to a life of promiscuity that will affect the way people perceive her and respect her within her social circle. As well as the fact that it emphasizes expectations for young women to conform to a certain feminine ideal of domesticity as a social norm during this time and the danger of female sexuality.
“Girl” is a short story in which the author, Jamaica Kincaid, unofficially presents the stereotypes of girls in the mid 1900s. Kincaid includes two major characters in the story “Girl”, they are the mother and the girl. Although the daughter only asks two questions in this story, she is the major character. The mother feels like her daughter is going in the wrong direction and not making the best decisions in her life. The whole story is basically the mother telling her daughter what affects her decisions will have in the future. The mother believes that because her daughter isn’t sitting, talking, cleaning, walking or singing correctly it will lead her to a path of destruction. “Girl” is a reflection of female sexuality, the power of family, and how family can help overcome future dangers.
For a reader in 2017 “Girl” by Jamaica Kincaid might seems very surreal and harsh as a story; mostly because of the very grating and mean language that is used when the mother is talking. The mother’s heartless language makes is really uncomfortable even though at the end of the day, she speaks nothing but love into her daughter’s life. She is giving her daughter social and family teachings, sharing with her the cultural and social values that will help her girl to have a peaceful and respected household and a happy life.
1. Describe the focus or focalization in Girl. Do we see what one person sees, or observe one person in particular? Describe the voice of the narrator in Girl. Who is the “you”? How do the focus and voice contribute to the reader’s response to the story?It about a girl’s womanhood set at the moment of separation between the age of innocence and the confusing, transfiguring entrance into womanhood experience. It is the story of a mother’s attempt to train her adolescent daughter to learn appropriate cultural customs and more important, the rules of social behavior, especially that of proper sexual conduct befitting a well-reared girl. Yes! We observe what the mother is trying to teach her young daughterto do for a man. It helps her too learned in order, to achieve something that her mother is trying to teach her to do and how to act as a young woman and what to expect as a young woman growing up.
In Girl, the mother makes three separate and seemingly hostile accusations towards her daughter about her becoming a slut. “and not like the slut you are so bent on becoming” is a common way for the mother to draw a comparison between what the daughter’s behavior should and should not be like. These strong feelings most likely arise from the mother’s desire for respect in the community, but are also influenced by religion. We know the mother is religious because of the mother’s comment “is it true that you sing benna in Sunday school?”. Sunday school is a time for children to learn about their religion, and the mother’s concern about benna due to an aversion to irreligious music. A focus on religion was common on the islands of Antigua where the author of Girl grew up. From this, it is a short jump in logic to assume that the mother’s concern about her daughter becoming a slut are originating from the local
In Jamaica Kincaid’s story, Girl, a mother is talking to her daughter about all the proper things she must do to be considered a good girl to her family and to the public, and when she grows up, a proper lady. She must follow the rules that are given to her by her own mother and by society. The mother also teaches the daughter how to act when things don’t go her way. She is told that along with being a proper lady, she must also be able to get what she wants and be independent. This story was written in the late 1970’s and gender roles, for women, back then were not being “followed” because women wanted equal opportunities (Women In the Workforce). “Gender stereotypes are beliefs regarding the traits and behavioral characteristics given to individuals on the basis of their gender” (Deuhr). This essay will discuss the gender roles that were given to women in the story, during the late 70’s, and in today’s society.
For centuries, women have had the role of being the perfect and typical house wife; needs to stay home and watch the children, cook for husbands, tend to the laundry and chores around the house. In her short story “Girl”, Jamaica Kincaid provides a long one sentence short story about a mother giving specific instructions to her daughter but with one question towards the end, with the daughter’s mother telling her daughter if she had done all the instructions to become a so called “perfect” woman, every man would want her. Kincaid’s structuring in “Girl,” captures a demanding and commanding tone. This short story relates to feminist perspectives. The mother expects a great deal from her daughter to have a certain potential and she does not hesitate to let her daughter understand that. As a matter of fact, the story is about two pages long, made into one long sentence - almost the whole time the mother is giving her daughter directions to follow - conveys a message to the reader that the mother demands and expects great potential in her daughter. The daughter is forced to listen and learn from what her mother is telling her to do to become the perfect housewife. Throughout the story, Kincaid uses the symbols of the house and clothing, benna and food to represent the meanings of becoming a young girl to a woman and being treated like one in society. Women are portrayed to appeal to a man to become the ideal woman in society, while men can do anything they please.
In the story Girl, The author Jamaica Kincaid uses point if view to show how the mother teaches her daughter how to be the proper or perfect woman for a man. She also uses” This is how”shows how the mother teaches the daughter how to be sophisticated.