Most people have all lied at some point for whatever reason it may have been. Lying while an easy way to get out of trouble or save someone’s feelings should only be used in certain situations. Lying causes loss of trust, double standards, and should only be used by the military. Lying seems to be something done by most of the population without even thinking twice about it but the fact is it causes confusion as who can be trusted. In “It’s the truth: Americans conflicted about lying”, a mother said,” it’s the easy trap of a lie… its easier than telling the truth.” Teenagers especially find themselves doing this, most of the time to get out of trouble
with parents or to save a friendship. A lot of people have lied to save a friends’ feelings and
…show more content…
That is an all too common side effect of lying. Cohen in the same article, It’s the truth: Americans conflicted about lying says” Once a person has found out you lied you lose currency in their eyes.” In It’s the truth: Americans conflicted about lying, Cohen says that” people want to be fooled. No one expects, and few would welcome, searing honesty at a dinner party.” This quote says that its ok to lie and protect
someone’s feelings still, everyone needs to think about if having someone distrusts you over a small lie like, I like those shoes, is really worth it. Another way to prove this is by a quote from the article Honestly, tell the truth, which says, “lying is stressful and hurts relationships.” It takes much less time to tell the truth than to try and make up something that will be found out as a lie and
make the person you were trying to avoid hurting their feelings feel bad anyway and not trust you. Everyone needs to take a look at the lies have come out of their mouths and realize that they did not do any good and it would have been much better to tell the
Secondly, lying can be used to keep a friend. If something happens because of a problem that came from someone, and their friend
There comes a time in every persons life where they feel a burning sensation to lie, but is it worth it? Don’t they feel the shame and the guilt of that lie? On average, people lie between ten to two hundred times a day. But doesn't all of that lying come with a lot of conflict and trouble? The more that you lie the more conflict arises by avoiding truth then if it were to be faced head-on.
Deception occurs when information is knowingly and intentionally for the purpose of creating a false belief in the receiver (Floyd, 2016 p.375). Depending on an individual’s upbringing lying can have someone felling guilt and nervousness. Lies allow us to be afraid of the truth while we try to find an escape from the problem. Growing up I can recall how worried I felt when I told a lie, that fear of being caught and the consequences that might come from someone finding out. Now as I grow old my feelings are still in the same place, however, I my learning through my experiences that lying doesn't just deceive the receiver but I can deceive myself. I feel regret when I tell a lie no matter the reason or circumstances it can never be rationalized, I’m still creating a false reality.
(1996) was a broad study that yielded several results. People lie daily, a finding not many would be surprised with. The lie more often outside of face-to-face interactions, unsurprising given the prominence of body language in communication. The types of things people lied about were consistent with ideas of monitoring impression formation; in simpler terms, people often lie to look better to others. It also appears that people lie with some frequency about positive feelings. This suggests that we may not want to take responses or comments about positive feelings at face value, and may want to dig deeper out of concern if we believe these responses to be dishonest. The findings in sex difference suggest that women lie to protect others much more often than men, but also lie more about others more than men. While this reinforces gossip stereotypes, it also reinforces the idea that women are more sensitive. To summarize the findings, if you desire open and honest conversation, you will likely have to encourage it. The prevalence of lying, for positive or negative reasons, is so great that it is a daily occurrence. To combat this, you must first acknowledge the astounding frequency of lying, and then voice your desire for less of it. After all, interactions without lies were rated more positively than ones with lies. If you want a more open, honest,
Once people know that a person habitually lies, they do not take that person as seriously. Being honest demonstrates self-respect and respect for others. Honesty is appealing and engaging to others. Honesty also sets a good example for people who look up to that person. People will become closer and have faith in an authentic person. An honest person invites authentic and real friendships. Imagine if a friend overhears a lie told by another peer, it is possible that it could damage the relationship. It can be difficult to regain their trust once they are aware of the regular lying. People frequently tell lies to bypass sharing truths that feel uncomfortable or awkward. Lying should be avoided because it is important to share true judgment and care for others. Lying typically ruins relationships whether they are personal or work-related. It is clear that lying creates skepticism and disbelief. Most people will stop asking liars for advice on personal issues because they know they will not get truthful information. Friendships are often broken because of lies that get too big to keep lying about. Lying hides who people really are. People should try to keep a clean slate by staying honest, especially when there are consequences. Lying gets rid of credibility, yet people seem to lie more
Lying can save you in severe situations such as life or death. Elie lied about his age and said he was eighteen instead of fifteen. “‘Your age?’ he asked, perhaps trying to sound paternal. ‘I'm eighteen.’ My voice was trembling.” (Wiesel 31). Not telling exact information to strangers about yourself can prevent bad things from happening. He told the doctor he was sick so he didn’t have to get his crown taken. His crown could buy him an extra ration of bread and soup, so he decided it’d be smart to keep it. He said he was a farmer because it could save him from being killed immediately. Lying is one of many ways that can help people survive in certain situations.
The majority of people think lying is inherently wrong, and it is only justified in cases of significant benefit. Fear, manipulation and pride are the three main reasons people choose to lie. Some of the harsher lies are
Sometimes, people tend to hide truth just to spare someone’s feelings and they think of it as small, good lies. But the point is that lies never bring anything good. No matter how small lies are, they might even hurt people’s feelings more than telling the truth right away.
Lying has a negative connotation in society. Once word goes around about an individual being a liar, the brutality of ostracizing commences, as if the world doesn’t possess enough pressures already. Yet, everyone lies, and lying can have positive benefits. We lie to protect our loved ones, to protect ourselves from harmful individuals or situations, and to avoid information going into the wrong hands. However, there are lies, such as rumors, that are used to destroy others identities, social life, self-concept, and those who habitually need to lie to feel more reassured of themselves as individuals. Lying’s powerful capabilities are bittersweet to say the least, but within justified moderation, they can pull that three-week-old unidentifiable murky colored gum off from the bottom of your shoe.
To begin with, sometimes people can’t handle honesty. The article “It’s the Truth:Americans Conflicted About Lying” ‘Why get here traumatized?’says Smith,64, of pioneer,Calif,’I tried to protect her. It slowed down the anxiety. Later,I told her what really happened’”. Sometimes telling truth can permanently affect someone and make them traumatized. There are some cases where the consequences of honesty outweigh the effects of lying. Additionally ,the same article it states”You don't want your kids to eat too much, so you say all the cookies are gone. You don't feel like going out,so you tell your date something important came up”.
However, there are cases where telling a lie would be better. When a friend trusts another friend to keep a secret, they should. They should not tell the true answer to a question another asks to figure out the secret of his friend. Instead, they should just lie that they do not know the secret and to ask the person his or
First, it is okay to lie when you are trying to protect someone's feelings , and from getting hurting them. What I mean by protecting someone's feelings , it is that you know something that can really hurt them. An example is when you find out something very serious happened to your family so, you lie to your siblings so they do not get worried. Two thirds said it was okay to lie in certain situations. My source is from the article ¨ It's the Truth , Americans Conflicted About Lying ¨ Another example is when you do not want your kids eating too much , so you say all the cookies are gone. It can be hard to get people to tell the truth , especially about lying. My source is from the article ¨ It's The Truth, Americans Conflicted About Lying¨.
When a friend asks me if their outfit looks good or if their breath smells unpleasant, I tend to lie and tell them what they are hoping to hear. This is due in part to my thinking that they will be better off believing they are presentable. I also use white lies as a way of shutting someone up. When my friend asks "Do I look okay?" I respond with, "Yeah, you look fine!" because I know it will make them stop bothering me. This, however, leads to anger when the friend realizes that their outfit was not, in fact, okay. This type of lie, while seeming harmless on the outside, causes trust issues. If a friend tells me that I look presentable, I will most likely assume they are lying to me and "sparing my feelings".
Lies are like truths in disguise and I think it is acceptable to lie except it shouldn’t have a great outcome. A person should think about how their deceptions could potentially harm someone and most importantly the effects of it. In my opinion, little white-lies are fine to tell but if it is any bigger than that it shouldn’t be told. It’s always better to be truthful and honest, but every now and then if a person really needs to tell a lie, it’s alright as long as they know the effects that it entails.
If I have ever lied to someone, it is most likely that it was to benefit them. My personal practices have not prevented others from fabricating the truth from me. During my middle school career, I had built a very intimate relationship with one of my female friends. One day, as we sat in the cafeteria, I decided to ask her if she would like to spend some time with me afterschool; she happily agreed. We started going to the movies every so often.