The Cheater 's Guide For Love By Junot Diaz

The methods in which men and women communicate are eminently different. This being so, their external state is an indicator of their inner state, but men and women have different external states to express themselves. This is especially evident among children and individuals in relationships, and altered between a couple who tries to adjust their behavior. Deborah Tannen, the author of “Sex, Lies, and Conversation,” argues that boys are girls are taught to have a differ inner state, that males and females usually have the same inner state but express them differently when communicating, and that individuals in romantic relationships can alter the way they present their outer state to represent their inner state in a way their partner can relate to.

In “For Love and Money”, by Deborah Pruitt and Suzanne LaFont, the authors study the relations between Euro-American women and the Jamaican men they have romances with while on vacation. As opposed to the ‘sex tourists’ of the Dominican Republic, the romance tourists pursue more than just sex, they desire an emotional connection. Often one that continues after their departure from the island. An important similarity between the ‘sex tourists’ of the Dominican Republic, and the ‘romance tourists’ of Jamaica, is the unequal power dynamic inherent in the relationship. The female romance tourists are typically wealthier than the men they patronize.

A powerful quote said by pre-socratic philosopher named Democritus says “Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold, happiness dwells in the soul”. In other words, happiness does not come from materialism but instead from the things money can’t buy. In the article The Secret of Happiness the author David Myers writes directly to Americans about how he believes we need to obtain a new “American Dream” that emphasizes personal happiness instead of materialistic happiness. Myers also believes happiness resides in the soul and he says people that think money is the key to happiness are actually less content with themselves and he uses various ways to prove this point. With that being said materialistic happiness vs personal happiness is an important issue, and Myers made a strong use of Logos by showing surveys and studies, Ethos by showing credibility in his argument but he could have used more Pathos by using more emotion and enthusiasm in his argument.

In this writing assignment I will be giving a detailed interpretation on Robert Nozick’s writing, “Love’s Bond”. First I will give an explanation on Nozick’s account of the nature of love. Secondly, I will explain why Robert Nozick believes that in love there is no desire to trade up to another partner. Lastly, I will also explain why he says that it is incoherent to ask what the value of love is to an individual person.

It is said that culture defines beauty of someone of another social class. Every young male must begin his journey with women and dating. Narrator instruct Yunior to mask his social class by hiding the “government cheese” in the refrigerator (Diaz). According to Fraud sexuality is part of a sexual desire an inborn life affirming drive, or Eros (Tyson24). Yunior tries to act

The phrase “bankrupt General Motors,” which we expect to hear uttered on Monday, leaves Americans my age in economic shock. The words are as melodramatic as “Mom’s nude photos.” And, indeed, if we want to understand what doomed the American automobile, we should give up on economics and turn to melodrama.

Love between two genders is one of the most common themes in writing. In literature, love is often praised, appreciated and cherished. Another common theme in writing is the looming specter of inequality between men and women, which has been strongly depicted throughout history and is still worryingly present in the world today. It is extremely interesting to realize that though love is treasured and valued, in most cases, it takes both genders to create love, and those genders are often separated by inequality. Both these themes coincide well together; the clash of love and gender inequality is interestingly captivating. In John Updikes A&P and Ernest Hemingway’s Hills Like White Elephants, both stories send a conclusive message to the reader that equality between both sexes in love and attraction is almost impossible; one gender will always be more powerful than the other.

As a child, his father was never quite satisfied with Yunior’s outward appearance, everything from his shoelaces up to his hair was subject to scrutiny, or as Yunior puts it: “even my hair still had enough of the African to condemn me” (Diaz 130). Exhibiting the loving qualities we know he possesses, Yunior’s father eventually forces Yunior shave his head; upon returning home he is greeted with a laughing brother and an astonished mother exclaiming “why did you do that to him” (Diaz 133). At this point in his life, Yunior was beginning to get a sense that he was inadequate, and even after altering his appearance to gain approval and affection from his father, he was subjected to ridicule further fostering his self-doubt. Serving as a catalyst for his budding insecurity, Yunior overheard his father tell his mother “look at your children. Me da verguenza (I am ashamed)” (Diaz 143). Thereafter, Yunior was subjected to daily inspections and physically hidden from his father if any discrepancies were found (Diaz 143). These events would leave their mark on Yunior, who when older would make self-deprecating remarks such as “I wasn't good-looking but I...had muscles in my arms” (Diaz 38). One should note that Yunior does admit to being a “steroid-addicted block”, signifying

In the story, Oscar goes through difficult situations to want to interpret the role of the Dominican man. During the story, Oscar seeks a woman who gives him love and makes him feel like a man, but does not have the masculine qualities necessary to achieve his purpose. While his friend Yunior is the opposite, that is, his role in history is a man that women are always behind him by his charms, to the point that he cannot maintain a relationship with a woman because he cannot be faithful.

Madga is the first person revealed in the story who stereotypes Yunior. According to Yunior, she believes him to be “a typical Dominican man: a sucio, an asshole” (Diaz 3). He does not seem pleased with the stereotype placed on him. He also faces discrimination from the security because of his ethnicity. Yunior reveals he is harassed at Harvard. He says, “It happens again and again. Security follows you in stores and every time you step on Harvard property your asked for ID.” (Diaz 182). He exposes the profiling he faces by police on a regular basis by sharing it happens “again and again”. Yunior reacts with anger to his circumstances. He declares he wants someone to “drop a fucking bomb on this city.” (Diaz 182). His anger shows he is aware the world is discriminating against him. He also declares the city of Boston as “racist.” (Diaz 196). Yunior also reveals his reaction to the discrimination. He declares it is “fucking scary” when “white people” harass him on the street. (Diaz 182). He declaration of fear from the harassment by Caucasians reveals the depths of discrimination in America. His fear shows he believes the threat of discrimination and it’s ramifications is a real

Diaz progresses into detailing the necessary steps the young man must follow to get an actual date with a woman dependent upon her race and background. The young man is led to believe that for each type of girl he must present himself differently to not offend her or her parent’s fragile sensibilities and receives instructions on how to properly illicit a date “The directions were in your best handwriting, so her parents won't think you're an idiot” (256). Clearly, careful psychological manipulations of a girl’s parents are a vital component in achieving dating success. To this point, the young man has only received instruction and it is here that the reader receives some insight into which type of woman the young man is wanting to date “The white ones are the ones you want the most, aren't

Dr. Tatiana’s Sex Advice to All Creation, written by Olivia Judson, mimics a Dear Abby column in a newspaper, in which her audience, ranges from a honeybee to spotted hyena, write-in and ask for help with their sex lives. She covers a slew of different sex topics, some more pleasant than others, such as incest, cannibalism, promiscuousness, and asexual reproduction. The book is truly a witty yet entertaining excursion of the natural history and the evolutionary biology of sex. Judson’s objective is to teach her audience about biology, specifically sexual biology.

Junot Diaz, the author of “A Cheaters Guide to Love” writes his short story with many different references to anti-feminism. He writes about women in different ways to show them as powerless, and un-superior to the main character in the short story. From this short story, Diaz conveys the main characters ways when he shows the him talking about, the girl he calls to have sex with, the women at the yoga class, and the files read at the end of the story that show the fifty girls he cheated on his fiancé with. Diaz creates his main character and puts him in the second person to relate to the reader, but show his anti-feministic signs.

Andrew's eyes flicked up, catching sight of her face. He swallowed, forcing his heart to not fully pound straight out of his chest. He shoved his chair back, kicking off with his feet. Standing up his eyes, a bright blue caught between a clear gray based blue and a weirdly vibrant electric blue, found her face. And that wall, that steel strong wall he'd built around his heart and emotion came tumbling down. Crashing in a haze of love, hate and anger. Years of work, undone in seconds just by looking at her.

This novel does not only makes allusion to poverty but also to race. The lover depicts a love story between a poor, white French girl, and a rich, Chinese man that must battle against the intolerance of society towards different races and economic statuses. The story portrays how strong and fix the racial hierarchy was at that time, as well as, how factors such as race and class prevents lovers to end up