Personal Experience Of Abusive Relationships

How does a person know if they are in an abusive relationship? According to the document, “Are you in an Abusive Relationship?”, it is easy to tell if a relationship is unhealthy. This document provided questions for a person to ask

Many women and men seek intimate relationships in order to fill their emotional needs of security, safety and love. Their journey starts off with their loved ones spoiling them with flattering gifts and emotional words. The love they feel is so wonderful and deep that they believe that nothing can come between them. They are so happy and convinced that they will live happily ever after with the one they love. Unfortunately, the fairytale they have dreamt about was only temporary and soon comes to an end. The love story they have ones longed for turns into a horrible nightmare. The emotional words they were once spoiled with turn into howling screams and name-calling. The flattering gifts turn into physical abuse. This relationship is referred to as domestic violence or intimate partner violence. This happens when a partner or significant other declares power, authority and control over the other partner. To maintain this authority and control, the abusive partner uses emotional, physical or sexual abuse over his victim (Alters 27). Victims will desperately look for an exit out of this relationship, but only to be blocked by numerous walls of the despair, fear and misery. Many people are convinced that victims have the option of leaving, but they are too weak and they choose not to. What many people don 't know is, victims of domestic violence have many reasons preventing them from leaving their abusers. In most cases the outcomes of leaving are

So you ignoring my calls now,” DeMarcus roared on the other end of the phone.

Eventually, my mom, my little brother, Sergio and I moved in together and that was the time when everything about me changed, I started disrespecting both Sergio and my mom. I really disliked him. I even started telling him he wasn't my father so I didn't have to listen to him and he was really hurt. At that point I didn't care because he was just some random guy dating my mother. My blood didn't run through his veins at

Central Idea: Abusive relationships start out as the most intensely wonderful relationships, the abuser is perfect in every way. Abuse doesn 't start over night it is a long slow process. First they tear apart your self esteem and isolate you so you have no one to turn to. They pick you apart and make you feel like the lowest slime on the planet. Then they abuse you and when its done they bring you flowers and tell you that it will never happen again and for a while there is that perfect relationship again. Abusive relationships are insanity because they are the worst

In 1979, psychologist Lenore Walker discovered that the majority of abusive relationships follow a similar pattern that cycles itself. This cycle could happen over any period of time but will almost always repeat itself a multitude of times. Lenore Walker’s cycle is not the exact same for all abusive relationships, some are much worse, but many share the same three stages which are tension building, incident, and honeymoon/calm. All three stages are fueled by constant denial from the victim. The cycle of domestic violence is a traumatic psychological sequence that millions of people of many different cultures and nationalities are tragically stuck in.

Healthy relationships involve a variety of different aspects such as respect, trust, and consideration. Unfortunately, some relationships aren’t meant to be healthy and they often turn to abusive relationships. Abuse can be physical, emotional and or sexual. Physical abuse are seen in various ways such as punching, kicking, choking, and or any other form of physical violence intended to hurt the other person. For a person who has experienced an abusive relationship it may be difficult for them to describe those particular feelings and the pain that they’ve gone through. One of the most important and original poets of the twentieth century is known as May Swenson and In her poem “Bleeding” she addresses the important issue that is recurrent in society; she embodies her personal life and illustrates the theme of abusive relationships, and it lets us as the audience gain a deeper understanding of the relationship between an abuser and victim through the significant use of symbolism, form and personification.

The fact is that it is often very difficult for an abuse victim to end the relationship. Victims stay with the batterer for many reasons, including but not limited to economic constraints, child issues, fear, and intimidation. People also assume that as soon as a victim leaves her abuser, she is safe. In reality, abuse victims are in the most danger after the relationship has ended. Another commonly accepted myth is that battering incidents are isolated behaviors. In reality, batterers use a cycle of power and control to keep their partner in the relationship. Abuse rarely happens just once. It can happen often, or only once a year, but most physical violence continues to escalate and happens more often as the relationship

Those who are abused fear what will happen to them once they leave, and they have probably already been threatened with what will happen if they do. Women are often embarrassed of themselves. Abusive relationships are immediately judged, and peoples’ lack of understanding could lead the abused to believe they did something wrong by being involved in the

The million dollar question is why a woman would choose to stay in an abusive relationship or marriage. According to most women, there are several different reasons. The most popular one is, “HE LOVES ME”. Many stay because of their lack of finances, for their children, lack of education, or their living arrangements. The violence becomes threatening to life when the abuser starts choking, breaking bones and the use of a weapon (Why Do Men Batter Women p.1-2). Whatever the reasons are, today there are laws being enforced on such a diversity conversation for all victims. Domestic Violence, according to the American Bar Association, 90-95% of victims is women and about 1 in 3 women are victims of some sort of physical assault by their partners. Some women feel that they have to save the marriages because of religious views, the child/children, or because they lack the resources to become independent or

Working thesis: Many victims of abuse continue a relationship with their abuser because they do not recognize the signs of abuse.

Today’s society contains an overwhelming amount of people “stuck” in abusive relationships. Why don’t they just pack up and leave one might wonder? Is this because they want to believe that people can change? It is a very disturbing issue, when the person that you are in “Love” with is the person inflicting so much pain on you. An outsider looking in a on a relationship of this sort will question why women that are victims of Intimate Partner Violence simply do not leave their relationships?

In addition to all these reasons to why women stay in abusive relationships, is because women lose their self-esteem and eventually don’t have the energy to leave.

Recognizing you are in an abusive relationship is sometimes tricky. If your partner makes you afraid, hurt or feel put down, those are signs of abuse. While being in an abusive relationship can be very difficult, there are many ways to cope with it. Other than national call centers willing to help 24/7, there are therapists and friends always ready to listen and help. At the end of the day, your health is what should come first, and if either your mental, physically, or emotionally health is being diminished, changes should be

Every year in the United States, One in four women are victims of the domestic violence; however, this is only based on what has been reported to the department of justice (Stahly 2008). While men are also victims of domestic violence, women are more often the victims. Moreover, 90% of domestic violence is male initiated. In severe cases domestic violence ends with victims being murdered. More specifically, domestic violence resulted in 2,340 deaths in the United States in 2007, and 70% of those killed were females (CDC 2012). Many people think that victims have the option of leaving and many people blame victims for putting up with the abuse; what many people don 't know is, victims of domestic violence have many reasons preventing them from leaving their abusers, these reasons include, isolation, having children bounding them with the abuser and lack of financial support. "It 's never pretty when you leave an abusive and controlling relationship. The warden always protests when a prison gets shut down," says Dr. Steve Maraboli (qtd from web). Whether a victim stays or leaves their abuser, the outcomes of both situations are not always as easy as many people predict. In some situations, the outcomes of leaving may be very dangerous for both the victim and her children.