My Life Of My Friend

Changes in life can be tough to go through and sometimes they can be easy. Some of these things are harder than others and some can be a better choice. Like moving is one thing that changed my way i looked at people. Then there is growing up, growing up can be hard. Last but not least there is education. These things that you experience can change your perspective on how you look at life.

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Growing up as a child, I was raised by my aunt. Her name was Sally. My aunt and I never really got along. I didn’t know my real parents. I actually doubt that she was my real aunt. At the age of thirteen years old I found out the truth about my parents. She told me that they died in a car accident when I was only 4 months old. That was the only truth I knew about my parents. I was left with pictures of them and memories, which it wasn’t many memories I could remember because I was only 4 months old. It was hard growing up seeing kids with their mommies and daddies. I used to wonder why my life was different and why I was with my aunt.

I still remember crying seeing my parents on the floor covered with blood, they were killed in the cruelest way. The last words my father said was to escape.

All good things in life must eventually come to an end; a good book, a movie, even a tasty meal. Sometimes the end can be a good thing, like graduating from school, moving out of childhood home, or retirement. But like many other endings, the end of a multiple year friendship can leave you with a pit in your stomach, like you have just been punched in the gut. Friendships can end in different ways, sometimes one friend moves away or heads to college or you simply grow apart. But when you realize that your friend, your best friend, is a person who hurts you and is so consumed with themselves and their own motives that they forget how to be your friend; that’s what hurts the most. There comes a moment when your friendships flips from meaning everything to you to being nothing at all. In an instant they turn on you and make you seem like a horrible person because of their own issues and insecurities. Your best friend hurts you, leaves you broken and alone and all you are left with is thoughts of regret. Thoughts that you wasted years of your time and energy for someone who betrayed you within a matter of seconds.

Friends, The definition of the word friend; a person whom one knows and has a bond of mutual affection. We all have those friends we have conversations with, snapchat, do activities / play sports with and hang out with once in a while. Then we sadly have those fake friends. They’re the ones who only call you when THEY need something. They’re the type of person who falsely claims to be real. When your friend acts sweet but spreads rumors about you behind your back, they are fake, get rid of them! But we all have our best friends, our best friends are very special people in our lives. They are the first people you think about when you make plans. They are the first person you go to when you need someone to talk to.

On September 12, 2017 at approximately 6:30 pm my mother informed me Justin, one of my best friends, had taken his own life. I was absolutely dumbfounded upon hearing the news of his death. At the age of 17, Justin was an Eagle Scout, honors student, top ten in his class at a very competitive school, and one of the best friends anyone could ever ask for. He was one of the hardest working and most dedicated people I have ever met.

Growing up I heard of a myth stating, “if a friendship lasts more than seven years, then it will last a lifetime”. Thinking this was true I wasted seven years on a girl who I thought would be my everlasting best friend.

In the past, I was known as a social outcast. I was the person who only had two friends and never spoke a word to others. Essentially, I was a human turtle. But in the summer of 2013, I met someone who was rather interesting: a young girl with a bubbly personality.

As i grow up i realize that the people who i thought were important to are sometimes just a waste of time. I had a friendship that started at childhood and grew us into best friends and we always stuck together no matter what. I was always there for her through everything, when she had no home i welcomed her into my home, i was her main support. All throughout middle and elementary school i never really payed attention to all the bad things she said or did, honestly i knew it hurt but i never knew how bad it really was. She constantly put me down for the way i dressed, looked,and honestly everything i ever did just to make herself look better than me as she copied anything i did in life. Honestly i didn't want to lose the closest friend i've ever had not noticing the toxic friendship, we knew each other so well. We were kinda like the same person growing up any face expression one of us made we knew exactly what it meant, we were always together and at times we would say that we were sisters because we were so alike. I put her before anything and pushed away a lot of good people along with ton of good friendships that could have been amazing. She knew about my past and fear of people leaving me like my mom did when i was younger so she used it against me honestly. She would get mad at the smallest things and put the blame on me so i tried hard to keep her happy so i could keep our friendship going which meant giving up things i didn't wanna lose sometimes. When i look bad

“Lovers have a right to betray you… friends don’t.” This quote by Judy Holliday hits the nail right on the head. When we forge friendships, we expect them to last. No matter how head over heels you are for a person romantically, there’s always a little voice in the back of your mind that says, “They might not be ‘the one’!” It is not so with a friend. Friendships are based on the premise that you will always be there for one another, and when that doesn’t happen the sting is worse than heartbreak. It is soulbreak.

Friendship, the outcome of comfortness and closeness to someone. It can only take a look, a smile, a few words, and perhaps just a few minutes to build a significant connection. A perfect match in which thoughts and emotions sink in together, for it has no form, no color, no distinction whatsoever. Meeting my other half, my best friend was a life-changing event because she was the first person I became close to after moving to a new school, the person I made the most memories with, and perhaps one of the most crucial lessons in my life.

It was just an average day in the life of a 5th grade kid who woke up having to go to school. Little did i know I was going to come home to such a dramatic 30 minute experience that could have made me a completely different person than who I am today.

Many people never get to see the true me, or me at all. I often hide what I don't want people to see, so I can be seen as normal. People always see a happy, quiet and very curious 16 year old boy wandering the halls with friends in school or playing sports. Nobody really thinks or even cares about what is actually going on in my life. They only see the outer shell that I have been protecting like a mother goose being harassed by an annoying seagal. Growing up in the upper middle class many saw me as a kid that they would have never seen as a kid with any stress or problems in life, I am here to tell you no one is perfect. This is my story.

People undergo numerous changes throughout their lives. From the time we are born, we are learning how to behave in and process the world around us. The influences from my environment, peers and family have shaped who I am and continue to do so.