Is The Women Be Blame For Staying? A Violence Relationship?

“Domestic violence or abuse is about control” (Pisarra), the abuser has complete control over the victim this is the most abundant reason why it’s hard for a person to leave an abusive relationship. Both emotional and psychological factors keep the victim tied to the abuser. Sometimes situational realities, such as a lack of money, and lack of resources keep the victim from leaving. The reasons for staying in an abusive relationship will vary from one victim to the next, but they usually involve several factors.

Emotional and verbal abuse go hand in hand. Examples include, yelling shouting, put downs, threatening comments, name calling, insults, embarrassing partner in public, possessive, making threats, etc. Similar to these is known as mental abuse. This type of abuse would be described as “mind games”, a form of manipulation, lying, and twisting things around. Then there is sexual abuse where any form of wanted sexual content is being forced.

First of all, dating violence and domestic violence are completely different things. Dating violence is when physical violence is used against or between one’s significant other and oneself. Meanwhile, domestic violence is violence against or between someone one lives with and oneself. For example, dating violence is happening if one’s boyfriend or girlfriend were to slap one’s face without consent. Domestic violence can occur between parents and children, husbands and wives, or even roommates. So if I were to slap my

* Emotional abuse. Threats of harm, controlling, intimidation verbal abuse, isolation or withdrawal from services or supportive networks.

Violence is preventable and extremely imperative for us to detect the early signs of it. We need to take all prevention strategies for an account. For example, primary, secondary, and tertiary preventions are an appropriate approach for this matter. Dating violence is the topic that is going to be discussed in this reading. I decided to write about this topic because many people are in the dark when it comes to dating violence, and the substantial effects of it. Allow me the opportunity to expand your horizon on this particular topic. There have been quite a few cases where women press charges on their significant other after being battered in unhealthy relationships. I always hear about situations like this through the media never in real life. It’s sad to say that a very close friend of mind was one of those women in a vicious relationship.

Emotional- Emotional abuse is usually unrecognised and can be very hurtful to someone. Not all abusive relationships involve violence, just because your not bruised and hurt doesn’t mean you haven’t been abused. Men and women have been hurt from emotional abuse and are no less hurtful than physical abuse. Emotional abuse is when someone makes you feel your not good enough by being yelled at, name calling, blamed for things, made to feel shamed, isolated from friends or family, scared, trapped, and the feeling of being controlled. You may feel

Aggressing: Aggressive forms of abuse include name-calling, belittling, accusing, blaming, threatening, ordering, and stalking. These behaviors are usually direct and very obvious. Through this behavior, the abuser undermines the equality and autonomy needed to have a healthy relationship. The relationship takes on a more parent-to-child pattern of communication. A more indirect form of emotional abuse can be disguised as “helping.” Abusers may use criticism, advice, probing, and questioning as a sincere attempt to offer their partner help. In some instances, however, these behaviors can be used by an abuser as an attempt to belittle, control, or demean their partner or spouse rather than to help them.

Physical abuse is them hitting, punching, kicking, trying to get you to use drugs and alcohol, or even taking away medicines needed for your health. The aggressor will also do anything they can to make you less desirable to the opposite sex. Leaving marks on your face is a big thing with the people that beat on you. Emotional abuse consists of calling you names, putting you down so that you feel less than a human being. I feel the emotional scars are the worst. You will have a problem trusting anyone once you have been a victim of domestic violence. You are always afraid that it will happen again so you are afraid to get close to people. Sexual abuse is “Rape.” The abuser will make you do despicable things you never would have done normally. This is very degrading to say the least. The sexual abuse aspect of this crime is so horrible, that most people have a hard time talking about it to anyone. Legal abuse is when they put you into a position of having to go to court for legal battles. They will use children, assets, anything to make you look bad and make them look better than you in the eyes of the courts. An abuser always wants and has to be in control.

The ultimate goal of this research is to reframe the understanding of why women, and men, will stay in an abusive relationship, which can then lead to more effective means of breaking the cycle and helping those who are victimized get out of such relationships quicker and more effectively. When it can be understood why a victim of domestic abuse stays, it is possible to better prevent them from returning to such behaviors after they seek assistance and therapy. The underlying cause of the desire to stay is the missing link between existing literature and the ability to better combat intimate partner

Why do we blame the women for staying in an abusive relationship? No one enters into an abusive relationship on purpose. The signs be right there in our face and we don’t even see them. Women be so focus on trying to please their man and don’t realize the abuse they are in. Sometimes it takes someone looking on the outside to inform

“Belief that the abusive partner will change because of his remorse and promises to stop battering is a big reason why woman being abused don’t leave the abuser. Woman who are being abused stay with the abuser because that’s all they know.” (“Facts v.s Myths”).They do not know that they should leave the abuser because they believe that they deserve the abuse they are being put through. Abuse can start putting thoughts into the person being abused mind making them think that it is their fault and when that abusive partner comes home and starts yelling they automatically start to think that it is their fault.

Women constantly blame themselves, they have low-self esteem, which makes them even more vulnerable to their abuser. They try and please their abuser’s needs, hang on to the promises of change, and strongly believe that if they stay long enough, they will be able to save their situation.

Emotional abuse is verbal abuse, which doesn’t include any physical contact or harm. Which is another form of abandoning or failing to live up to a child's needs. Every child needs to feel wanted and appreciated, or their self esteem goes down and this causes them to feel distracted and not loved.

In addition to all these reasons to why women stay in abusive relationships, is because women lose their self-esteem and eventually don’t have the energy to leave.

"They forget to worry about themselves and their own emotional needs. A lot of women are being abused and they don't even know it." Just because competition for getting a spouse gets stiffer by the day, thanks to the women to men ratio, we don't want you to be ensnared by a toxic man, just