Effects Of Parenting Styles

The psychologist Diana Baumrind identified three categories of parenting styles and linked them to children’s behaviors. “Authoritative” parents is one example, parents that have strong control when necessary, but they explain why and allow them to have their own opinion.

Authoritarian: Is basically a parent who is very demanding, and at the same time not responsive. So basically strict about rules and not a lot of communication with the child.

Failure to demonstrate manners and thereby failing to demonstrate respect is often dealt with by strict disciplinary action. Unlike the authoritarian style of parenting, the permissive style does not place such great emphasis on adherence to manners. Manners may be encouraged but are not viewed as a sign of a child’s obedience. Permissive parents allow and often even encourage casual verbiage rather than formal conversations with their child. Failure to hold the door for the next person or giving up a seat to a woman or elderly is seldom noticed or mentioned. Permissive parents fail to enforce some of the simplest expressions of manners. Correction and punishment is seldom given to a child for lack of manners. According to WWW.Consistent-parenting-advice.com children of permissive parents control their own behavior and to make their own decision.

Permissive parents allow complete freedom to their children and there is very little discipline visible. Permissive parenting was “Popular in the 1950’s and 1960’s” because of all the troubles going on during WWII. (5) They like to tell their kids “One more time…” whenever the kids do something bad. An example can be if Timmy asks his parents if he can go to a party. They tell him he has to be home by 10pm. Then his parents tell him the limit is 10pm. Then he suggests 12pm and because they do not want Timmy to be angry with them they let him do whatever he wants. Permissive parents have a fear that their kids will not like them. Unlike authoritarian parents, permissive parents make rules but they never enforce the rules. The children in this parenting style are usually immature, dependant, aggressive, and unhappy. They do not do well academically because of their inability to regulate to the school rules.

The permissive parenting style is one in which the parents care for their child, yet they don’t set rules or discipline their child. This parenting style is high in nurturance and low in maturity demands, control, and communication. According to Joseph Sclafani, a child psychologist,:

• Permissive parenting children tend to more impulsive and may engage in more misconduct as an adolescent. The children go on to never learn to control their own behavior and always expect to get their way. As in better cases they child may mature quickly and live a very dependent life.

Authoritarian parents normally do not interact with their children in positive ways and usually install fear into the child. Punishment is usually harsh and given without explanation. Children with authoritarian parents are often anxiety- ridden. Studies have shown that these children have lower self- esteem, show high aggressiveness and typically do less well in school. Permissive parenting consists of high nurture and acceptance, but these parents lack structure and control. These parents look at their children as “free spirits” who need space to learn and grow. Permissive parents are usually inconsistent with discipline. Children with permissive parents normally are impulsive and irresponsible. These children also lack any self- control since none was expected (Sclafani 47).

Which parenting style will lead to a child becoming successful and stable in life? Many argue about the answer to this question. There are four main types of parenting styles. There’s authoritarian parenting which follows a set of strict rules and doesn’t necessarily nurture the child; apathetic towards their emotions, demanding a sort of blind obedience from the child. Authoritative parenting which takes a more moderate approach; setting high standards, nurtures, and responds to the child’s emotions. Permissive parenting which is reluctant to impose rules and standards, preferring to allow kids to regulate themselves. Finally, there’s the hands-off parenting in which the parent doesn’t involve themselves

Research indicates that about one-third of all parents use authoritative style of parenting. Regardless of the preferred style, varying factors such as culture, the temperament of the child and parent, and parental status will influence the interactive process of that style. Most parents could benefit from knowledge and information of these style to improve their parenting skills.Parenting style is a pattern of behavior that influences child-rearing practices. Approaches vary based on several factors, ranging from how parents themselves were raised to the goals parents have for their children.

That type of parenting causes some children to grow up beginning disrespectful, and have a arrogant attitude throws the word. Permissive parents are simply afraid to do anything that may upset their child. It is critical for the permissive parent to start to set boundaries, and rules for their child before it is too

Frist, Authoritative Parenting is considered the most successful way to parent a child (Hughes 2013). It is considered the most successful way to parent children because it has a high parent involvement rate and the levels of control are well balanced. These types of parents have very realistic expectations and limits for their kids. The parents also have a more natural way to approach consequences when needed. Authoritative parents tend to listen to the child’s point of view when they are talking, and allow the child more opportunities to be independent. These parents will have set rules that have to be followed and will explain their reasons why the rules are there, but also explain what the consequences will be if they choose not to follow the set rules. The parents in this category are also more lenient with the children as well. They will bend and allow exceptions to their set rules and consequences in certain situations. For example these

Neglectful parents are almost completely uninvolved in their child’s life. They often don’t care for their needs, whether that be physical, emotional, or other needs. Their homes are commonly not a safe place for them to be at. A child could be left home alone for a long time without the parent present. This can cause trust issues in a child as they grow older and they may not to maintain a relationship with someone.

In my recent psychology class we studied parenting styles. They are grouped into three different categories; authoritarian, authoritative, and overly permissive. This gave me insight into a couple of different programs I’ve watched on television.Authoritarian parents are parents that set strict rules to keep order and they usually do this without much expression of warmth and affection. “They demand obedience to authority.” (Coon & Mitterer, 2010, p. 91) When the child questions the parent, "Because I said so," is often the response. Parents tend to focus on bad behavior, and not positive behavior, and children are scolded or punished for not after the rules. Authoritative parents help their children learn to be responsible for

The next parenting style is permissive parenting. These parents are warm. Although they are warm they are not involved with their children and their activities. They also don’t have control of the behavior of their children. These parents do not have many rules and allow their children to do what they want to do, whenever they want to do it. “Their children eat meals and go to bed when they feel like it and watch as much television as they want” (Berk 389). In the book Infants, Children and Adolescents it mentions that these children become disobedient. It mentions that they do poorly in school, have more antisocial behaviors, become dependent, and are rebellious.

Safeness is one of the advantages of parenting style where parents create rules like a method of protecting their children, it’s similar to providing guidance as to which is the correct path to take. Better parenting allows the parent and the child to have better relationships with their children. Parents effectively deal with difficult kids, and another one is clear goals which child is aware of what was his/her goal in the future. It also creates responsible citizens that are highly responsible citizens when they grow up. One of the disadvantages of parenting style is rebellion where children don’t get the opportunity to learn right from their mistakes. It can also create communication problems where child is afraid that his feelings, thoughts or actions might be punished, he is not as likely to share these problems with his parents. This is a can cause problem because children need to talk with their parents when they encounter problems, they can solve it within their selves. Bullying is also one of the disadvantages when strict parent typically establishes limits without empathy, children raised in a strict home often become angry and