E. Cobham Brewer 18101897. Dictionary of Phrase and Fable. 1898.
They were shot to give warning, and not to hurt. (1 Sam. xx. 36.)
If the husband would reprove his wife, it should be in such a mood as if he did chide himself; and his words, like Jonathans arrows, should be shot, not to hurt, but only to give warning.Le Fanu: The House in the Churchyard, chap. xcix.