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C.N. Douglas, comp.  Forty Thousand Quotations: Prose and Poetical.  1917.
 
Friends
 
  A friend may well be reckoned the masterpiece of nature.
Emerson.    
  1
  A true friend is one soul in two bodies.
Aristotle.    
  2
  Oblige a friend.
Stobæus.    
  3
  Of friends, however humble, scorn not one.
Wordsworth.    
  4
  Friends are ourselves.
John Donne.    
  5
  Have no friends not equal to yourself.
Confucius.    
  6
  The way to gain a friend is to be one.
Michelet.    
  7
  Make friends of the wise.
Stobæus.    
  8
  Make friends of equals.
Stobæus.    
  9
  The greatest medicine is a true friend.
Sir W. Temple.    
  10
  My friends! There are no friends!
Aristotle.    
  11
  A friend to everybody is a friend to nobody.
Spanish Proverb.    
  12
  A true friend is forever a friend.
George MacDonald.    
  13
  He who reckons ten friends has not one.
Malesherbes.    
  14
  Men make the best friends.
La Bruyère.    
  15
  The wretched have no friends.
Dryden.    
  16
  Amongst true friends there is no fear of losing anything.
Jeremy Taylor.    
  17
  A friend must not be injured, even in jest.
Syrus.    
  18
  It is a friendly heart that has plenty of friends.
Thackeray.    
  19
  Save, oh! save me from the candid friend.
George Canning.    
  20
 
 
  A man dies as often as he loses his friends.
Bacon.    
  21
  To lose a friend is the greatest of all losses.
Syrus.    
  22
  A friend is worth all hazards we can run.
Young.    
  23
  Friends are to incite one another to God’s works.
William Ellery Channing.    
  24
  Be slow in choosing a friend, slower in changing.
Benjamin Franklin.    
  25
  For his friend is another self.
Aristotle.    
  26
  A book is a friend that never deceives.
Guilbert De Pixérécourt.    
  27
  Virtuous men alone possess friends.
Voltaire.    
  28
  He who hath many friends, hath none.
Aristotle.    
  29
  Oh, be my friend, and teach me to be thine!
Emerson.    
  30
  To God, thy country, and thy friend be true.
Vaughan.    
  31
  Women, like princes, find few real friends.
Lord Lyttleton.    
  32
  Nature teaches beasts to know their friends.
Shakespeare.    
  33
  Friend more divine than all divinities.
George Eliot.    
  34
  Kiss and be friends.
Farquhar.    
  35
  True friends have no solitary joy or sorrow.
William Ellery Channing.    
  36
  A constant friend is a thing rare and hard to find.
Plutarch.    
  37
  No friend’s a friend till he shall prove a friend.
Beaumont and Fletcher.    
  38
  Have friends, not for the sake of receiving, but of giving.
Joseph Roux.    
  39
  Thine own friend, and thy father’s friend, forsake not.
Bible.    
  40
  Keep thy friend under thy own life’s key.
Shakespeare.    
  41
  A man cannot be said to succeed in this life who does not satisfy one friend.
Henry D. Thoreau.    
  42
  Between friends, frequent reproofs make the friendship distant.
Confucius.    
  43
  My joy in friends, those sacred people, is my consolation.
Emerson.    
  44
  A friend should bear his friend’s infirmities.
Shakespeare.    
  45
        Be kind to my remains; and O defend
Against your judgment, your departed friend.
Dryden.    
  46
  I have loved my friends as I do virtue, my soul, my God.
Sir Thomas Browne.    
  47
  Where you have friends you should not go to inns.
George Eliot.    
  48
  I have myself to respect, but to myself I am not amiable; but my friend is my amiableness personified.
Henry D. Thoreau.    
  49
  Defend me from my friends; I can defend myself from my enemies.
The French Ana.    
  50
  The fallying out of faithful frends is the renuyng of love.
Richard Edwards.    
  51
        A foe to God was ne’er true friend to man,
Some sinister intent taints all he does.
Young.    
  52
        ’Tis thus that on the choice of friends
Our good or evil name depends.
Gay.    
  53
  Nothing makes the earth seem so spacious as to have friends at a distance; they make the latitudes and longitudes.
Henry D. Thoreau.    
  54
        We have been friends together
In sunshine and in shade.
Caroline E. S. Norton.    
  55
        Eternal blessings crown my earliest friend,
And round his dwelling guardian saints attend.
Goldsmith.    
  56
  Old friends are best. King James used to call for his old shoes. They were easiest for his feet.
John Selden.    
  57
  May I never sit on a tribunal where my friends shall not find more favor from me than strangers.
Themistocles.    
  58
  Friendship is the ideal; friends are the reality; reality always remains far apart from the ideal.
Joseph Roux.    
  59
  Nothing endears so much a friend as sorrow for his death. The pleasure of his company has not so powerful an influence.
Hume.    
  60
        A day for toil, an hour for sport,
But for a friend is life too short.
Emerson.    
  61
  Two persons will not be friends long if they cannot forgive each other little failings.
La Bruyère.    
  62
  It is good to have friends at court.
Charles Lamb.    
  63
  A friend should be like money, tried before being required, not found faulty in our need.
Plutarch.    
  64
  Know this, that he that is a friend of himself is a friend to all men.
Seneca.    
  65
  Animals are such agreeable friends—they ask no questions. They pass no criticisms.
George Eliot.    
  66
                    My designs and labors
And aspirations are my only friends.
Longfellow.    
  67
  He is a friend who, in dubious circumstances, aids in deeds when deeds are necessary.
Plautus.    
  68
  The wound is for you, but the pain is for me.
Charles IX.    
  69
  For to cast away a virtuous friend, I call as bad as to cast away one’s own life, which one loves best.
Sophocles.    
  70
        ’Tis something to be willing to commend;
But my best praise is, that I am your friend.
Southerne.    
  71
  When our friends are present we ought to treat them well; and when they are absent, to speak of them well.
Epictetus.    
  72
  Our most intimate friend is not he to whom we show the worst, but the best of our nature.
Hawthorne.    
  73
  Choose a good disagreeable friend, if you be wise—a surly, steady, economical, rigid fellow.
Thackeray.    
  74
  Friends are rare, for the good reason that men are not common.
Joseph Roux.    
  75
  A friend that you have to buy won’t be worth what you pay for him, no matter what that may be.
George L. Prentice.    
  76
  There are three faithful friends—an old wife, an old dog, and ready money.
Benjamin Franklin.    
  77
  He that will lose his friend for a jest deserves to die a beggar by the bargain.
Thomas Fuller.    
  78
  He will never have true friends who is afraid of making enemies.
Hazlitt.    
  79
  If we are long absent from our friends, we forget them; if we are constantly with them, we despise them.
Hazlitt.    
  80
  It is better to make friends than adversaries of a conquered race.
B. R. Haydon.    
  81
  Promises may get friends, but it is performance that must nurse and keep them.
Owen Feltham.    
  82
  Take the advice of a faithful friend, and submit thy inventions to his censure.
Thomas Fuller.    
  83
  It is virtue which should determine us in the choice of our friends, without inquiring into their good or evil fortune.
La Bruyère.    
  84
        Poor is the friendless master of a world:
A world in purchase for a friend is gain.
Dr. Young.    
  85
  There is nothing more friendly than a friend in need.
Plautus.    
  86
  A faithful friend is the true image of the Deity.
Napoleon.    
  87
  Chance makes our parents, but choice makes our friends.
Delille.    
  88
        Friends I have made, whom envy must commend,
But not one foe whom I would wish a friend.
Churchill.    
  89
  A friend loveth at all times; and a brother is born for adversity.
Bible.    
  90
  The ornaments of a home are the friends who frequent it.
Emerson.    
  91
  No better relation than a prudent and faithful friend.
Franklin.    
  92
        O friend! O best of friends! Thy absence more
Than the impending night darkens the landscape o’er.
Longfellow.    
  93
  Those who want friends to open themselves unto are cannibals of their own hearts.
Bacon.    
  94
  From the loss of our friends teach us how to enjoy and improve those who remain.
William Ellery Channing.    
  95
        Trust not yourself; but your defects to know,
Make use of ev’ry friend—and ev’ry foe.
Pope.    
  96
  The difficulty is not so great to die for a friend as to find a friend worth dying for.
Henry Home.    
  97
  Nothing shows one who his friends are like prosperity and ripe fruit.
C. D. Warner.    
  98
  A friend gives himself to his beloved, and the higher his excellence the richer the gift.
William Ellery Channing.    
  99
  He who has ceased to enjoy his friend’s superiority has ceased to love him.
Madame Swetchine.    
  100
  We want but two or three friends, but these we cannot do without, and they serve us in every thought we think.
Emerson.    
  101
  Purchase no friends by gifts; when thou ceasest to give such will cease to love.
Fuller.    
  102
  Summer friends vanish when the cask is drained to the dregs.
Horatius.    
  103
  In prosperity it is very easy to find a friend; but in adversity it is the most difficult of all things.
Epictetus.    
  104
  There have been fewer friends on earth than kings.
Cowley.    
  105
  Friends, those relations that one makes for one’s self.
Deschamps.    
  106
  Every friend is to the other a sun, and a sunflower also. He attracts and follows.
Richter.    
  107
  True friends appear less moved than counterfeit.
Roscommon.    
  108
  Talking with a friend is nothing else but thinking aloud.
Addison.    
  109
  We want our friend as a man of talent, less because he has talent than because he is our friend.
Joseph Roux.    
  110
  The genius of life is friendly to the noble, and, in the dark, brings them friends from far.
Emerson.    
  111
  Some dire misfortune to portend, no enemy can match a friend.
Swift.    
  112
  Chide a friend in private and praise him in public.
Solon.    
  113
  Our friends interpret the world and ourselves to us, if we take them tenderly and truly.
A. Bronson Alcott.    
  114
  Costly followers are not to be liked, lest while a man maketh his train longer, he make his wings shorter.
Bacon.    
  115
  Friends are much better tried in bad fortune than in good.
Aristotle.    
  116
  There is no man so friendless but what he can find a friend sincere enough to tell him disagreeable truths.
Bulwer-Lytton.    
  117
  Friends are the thermometers by which we may judge the temperature of our fortunes.
Lady Blessington.    
  118
  Friends are the leaders of the bosom, being more ourselves than we are, and we complement our affections in theirs.
A. Bronson Alcott.    
  119
  The beloved friend does not fill one part of the soul, but, penetrating the whole, becomes connected with all feeling.
William Ellery Channing.    
  120
        He casts off his friends, as a huntsman his pack,
For he knew, when he pleased, he could whistle them back.
Goldsmith.    
  121
  A faithful friend is better than gold—a medicine for misery, an only possession.
Burton.    
  122
  The loss of a friend is like that of a limb. Time may heal the anguish of the wound, but the loss cannot be repaired.
Southey.    
  123
  False friends are like our shadow, keeping close to us while we walk in the sunshine, but leaving us the instant we cross into the shade.
Bovee.    
  124
  Whatever the number of a man’s friends, there will be times in his life when he has one too few.
Bulwer-Lytton.    
  125
  Very pleasant hast thou been unto me; thy love to me was wonderful, passing the love of women.
Bible.    
  126
  He is happy that hath a true friend at his need; but he is more truly happy that hath no need of his friend.
Warwick.    
  127
  Friends are often chosen for similitude of manners, and therefore each palliates the other’s failings because they are his own.
Dr. Johnson.    
  128
  We must love our friends as true amateurs love paintings: they have their eyes perpetually fixed on the fine parts, and see no others.
Mme. d’Epinay.    
  129
  Friends should be weighed, not told; who boasts to have won a multitude of friends has never had one.
Coleridge.    
  130
  Nothing is more dangerous than a friend without discretion; even a prudent enemy is preferable.
La Fontaine.    
  131
  We never know the true value of friends. While they live we are too sensitive of their faults: when we have lost them we only see their virtues.
J. C. and A. W. Hare.    
  132
  Than dost conspire against thy friend, Iago, if thou but think’st him wronged, and mak’st his ear a stranger to thy thoughts.
Shakespeare.    
  133
  Among real friends there is no rivalry or jealousy of one another, but they are satisfied and contented alike whether they are equal or one of them is superior.
Plutarch.    
  134
  Sometimes we lose friends for whose loss our regret is greater than our grief, and others for whom our grief is greater than our regret.
La Rochefoucauld.    
  135
  It is hard to dispraise those who are dispraised by others. He is little short of a hero who perseveres in thinking well of a friend who has become a butt for slander, and a byword.
Hazlitt.    
  136
        ’Twas sung, how they were lovely in their lives,
And in their deaths had not divided been.
Campbell.    
  137
  “Necessarius,” the friend, the man who is necessary.  *  *  *  A deep word, an ingenious word, a touching word. When will it be French?
Joseph Roux.    
  138
        Sweet is the memory of distant friends!
Like the mellow rays of the departing sun,
It falls tenderly, yet sadly, on the heart.
Washington Irving.    
  139
  The man abandoned by his friends, one after another, without just cause, will acquire the reputation of being hard to please, changeable, ungrateful, unsociable.
Joseph Roux.    
  140
  Take heed of a speedy professing friend; love is never lasting which flames before it burns.
Feltham.    
  141
  When we exaggerate the tenderness of our friends towards us, it is often less from gratitude than from a desire to exhibit our own merit.
La Rochefoucauld.    
  142
        The poor make no new friends;
  But oh, they love the better still
The few our Father sends.
Lady Dufferin.    
  143
  One faithful friend is enough for a man’s self; ’tis much to meet with such an one, yet we can’t have too many for the sake of others.
De La Bruyère.    
  144
  He that doth a base thing in zeal for his friend burns the golden thread that ties their hearts together.
Jeremy Taylor.    
  145
        Alas! to-day I would give everything
To see a friend’s face, or hear a voice
That had the slightest tone of comfort in it.
Longfellow.    
  146
  Real friends are our greatest joy and our greatest sorrow. It were almost to be wished that all true and faithful friends should expire on the same day.
Fénelon.    
  147
  True friends visit us in prosperity only when invited, but in adversity they come without invitation.
Theophrastus.    
  148
                    To wail friends lost
Is not by much so wholesome—profitable,
As to rejoice at friends but newly found.
Shakespeare.    
  149
  Real friendship is a slow grower; and never thrives unless engrafted upon a stock of known and reciprocal merit.
Chesterfield.    
  150
  It is easy to say how we love new friends, and what we think of them, but words can never trace out all the fibers that knit us to the old.
George Eliot.    
  151
        Then came your new friend: you began to change—
I saw it and grieved.
Tennyson.    
  152
  They who dare to ask anything of a friend, by their very request seem to imply that they would do anything for the sake of that friend.
Cicero.    
  153
  The place where two friends first met is sacred to them all through their friendship, all the more sacred as their friendship deepens and grows old.
Phillips Brooks.    
  154
  As you grow ready for it, somewhere or other you will find what is needful for you in a book or a friend.
George MacDonald.    
  155
        As we sail through life towards death,
Bound unto the same port—heaven—
Friend, what years could us divide?
D. M. Mulock.    
  156
        Friends are like melons. Shall I tell you why?
To find one good, you must a hundred try.
Claude Mermet.    
  157
        ’Tis sweet, as year by year we lose
Friends out of sight, in faith to muse
How grows in Paradise our store.
Keble.    
  158
  Give, and you may keep your friend if you lose your money; lend, and the chances are that you lose your friend if ever you get back your money.
Bulwer-Lytton.    
  159
  The friends thou hast, and their adoption tried, grapple them to thy soul with hooks of steel.
Shakespeare.    
  160
        All are friends in heaven, all faithful friends,
And many friendships in the days of Time
Begun, are lasting there and growing still.
Pollok.    
  161
  When our friends die, in proportion as we loved them, we die with them—we go with them. We are not wholly of the earth.
William Ellery Channing.    
  162
  Our very best friends have a tincture of jealousy even in their friendship; and when they hear us praised by others, will ascribe it to sinister and interested motives if they can.
Colton.    
  163
  For men may prove and use their friends, as the poet expresses it, usque ad aras, meaning that a friend should not be required to act contrary to the law of God.
Cervantes.    
  164
  The attempt to make one false impression on the mind of a friend respecting ourselves is of the nature of perfidy. Sincerity should be observed most scrupulously.
William Ellery Channing.    
  165
  The friend asks no return but that his friend will religiously accept and wear, and not disgrace, his apotheosis of him.
Thoreau.    
  166
  Friends are as companions on a journey, who ought to aid each other to persevere in the road to a happier life.
Pythagoras.    
  167
  Friends should not be chosen to flatter. The quality we should prize is that rectitude which will shrink from no truth. Intimacies which increase vanity destroy friendship.
William Ellery Channing.    
  168
  I consider beyond all wealth, honor, or even health, is the attachment due to noble souls; because to become one with the good, generous, and true, is to be, in a manner, good, generous, and true yourself.
Dr. Arnold.    
  169
  A true friend embraces our objects as his own. We feel another mind bent on the same end, enjoying it, ensuring it, reflecting it, and delighting in our devotion to it.
William Ellery Channing.    
  170
  Wise were the kings who never chose a friend till with full cups they had unmasked his soul, and seen the bottom of his deepest thoughts.
Horace.    
  171
  The qualities of your friends will be those of your enemies; cold friends, cold enemies—half friends, half enemies—fervid enemies, warm friends.
Lavater.    
  172
        First on thy friend deliberate with thyself;
Pause, ponder, sift; not eager in the choice;
Nor jealous of the chosen; fixing, fix:—
Judge before friendship, then confide till death.
Young.    
  173
  A female friend, amiable, clever, and devoted, is a possession more valuable than parks and palaces; and without such a muse, few men can succeed in life, none be contented.
Beaconsfield.    
  174
  A true friend is distinguished in the crisis of hazard and necessity; when the gallantry of his aid may show the worth of his soul and the loyalty of his heart.
Ennius.    
  175
  The lightsome countenance of a friend giveth such an inward decking to the house where it lodgeth, as proudest palaces have cause to envy the gilding.
Sir Philip Sidney.    
  176
  To act the part of a true friend requires more conscientious feeling than to fill with credit and complacency any other station or capacity in social life.
Sarah Ellis.    
  177
  The generality of friends puts us out of conceit with friendship; just as the generality of religious people puts us out of conceit with religion.
La Rochefoucauld.    
  178
  No receipt openeth the heart but a true friend, to whom you may impart griefs, joys, fears, hopes, suspicions, counsels, and whatsoever lieth upon the heart to oppress it, in a kind of civil shrift or confession.
Bacon.    
  179
  A friend is he who sets his heart upon us, is happy with us and delights in us; does for us what we want, is willing and fully engaged to do all he can for us, on whom we can rely in all cases.
William Ellery Channing.    
  180
  A true friend will appear such in leaving us to act according to our intimate conviction,—will cherish this nobleness of sentiment, will never wish to substitute his power for our own.
William Ellery Channing.    
  181
  Other blessings may be taken away, but if we have acquired a good friend by goodness, we have a blessing which improves in value when others fail. It is even heightened by sufferings.
William Ellery Channing.    
  182
  The flatterer’s object is to please in everything he does; whereas the true friend always does what is right, and so often gives pleasure, often pain, not wishing the latter, but not shunning it either, if he deems it best.
Plutarch.    
  183
  We cannot enjoy a friend here. If we are to meet it is beyond the grave. How much of our soul a friend takes with him! We half die in him.
William Ellery Channing.    
  184
        When true friends meet in adverse hour,
’Tis like a sunbeam through a shower;
A watery ray an instant seen,
The darkly closing clouds between.
Scott.    
  185
  So also it is good not always to make a friend of the person who is expert in twining himself around us; but, after testing them, to attach ourselves to those who are worthy of our affection and likely to be serviceable to us.
Plutarch.    
  186
  Give thy friend counsel wisely and charitably, but leave him to his liberty whether he will follow thee or no; and be not angry if thy counsel be rejected, for advice is no empire, and he is not my friend that will be my judge whether I will or no.
Jeremy Taylor.    
  187
        Ah! were I sever’d from thy side,
Where were thy friend and who my guide?
Years have not seen, Time shall not see
The hour that tears my soul from thee.
Byron.    
  188
        It’s an owercome sooth fo’ age an’ youth,
  And it brooks wi’ nae denial,
That the dearest friends are the auldest friends,
  And the young are just on trial.
Robert Louis Stevenson.    
  189
        But oh! if grief thy steps attend,
  If want, if sickness be thy lot,
And thou require a soothing friend,
  Forget me not! forget me not!
Mrs. Opie.    
  190
  At death our friends and relatives either draw nearer to us and are found out, or depart farther from us and are forgotten. Friends are as often brought nearer together as separated by death.
Henry D. Thoreau.    
  191
  Self-love increases or diminishes for us the good qualities of our friends, in proportion to the satisfaction we feel with them; and we judge of their merit by the manner in which they act towards us.
La Rochefoucauld.    
  192
  A friend whom you have been gaining during your whole life, you ought not to be displeased with in a moment. A stone is many years becoming a ruby; take care that you do not destroy it in an instant against another stone.
Saadi.    
  193
        Yes, we must ever be friends; and of all who offer you friendship
Let me be ever the first, the truest, the nearest and dearest!
Longfellow.    
  194
        Dear is my friend—yet from my foe, as from my friend, comes good:
My friend shows what I can do, and my foe what I should.
Schiller.    
  195
  The most I can do for my friend is simply to be his friend. I have no wealth to bestow on him. If he knows that I am happy in loving him, he will want no other reward. Is not friendship divine in this?
Henry D. Thoreau.    
  196
  Experience has taught me that the only friends we can call our own, who can have no change, are those over whom the grave has closed; the seal of death is the only seal of friendship.
Byron.    
  197
        I would not enter on my list of friends,
(Though graced with polished manners and fine sense,
Yet wanting sensibility) the man
Who needlessly sets foot upon a worm.
Cowper.    
  198
        His gain is loss; for he that wrongs his friend
Wrongs himself more, and ever bears about
A silent court of justice in his breast,
Himself a judge and jury, and himself
The prisoner at the bar, ever condemned.
Tennyson.    
  199
        I have friends in Spirit Land—
Not shadows in a shadowy band,
Not others but themselves are they,
And still I think of them the same
As when the Master’s summons came.
Whittier.    
  200
  When I choose my friend, I will not stay till I have received a kindness; but I will choose such a one that can do me many if I need them; but I mean such kindnesses which make me wiser, and which make me better.
Jeremy Taylor.    
  201
  This communicating of a man’s self to his friend works two contrary effects, for it redoubleth joys, and cutteth griefs in halves; for there is no man that imparteth his joys to his friend but he enjoyeth the more; and no man that imparteth his griefs to his friend, but he grieveth the less.
Bacon.    
  202
  It is better to decide between our enemies than our friends; for one of our friends will most likely become our enemy; but on the other hand, one of your enemies will probably become your friend.
Bias.    
  203
  Generally speaking, among sensible persons, it would seem that a rich man deems that friend a sincere one who does not want to borrow his money; while, among the less favored with fortune’s gifts, the sincere friend is generally esteemed to be the individual who is ready to lend it.
Disraeli.    
  204
  “Wal’r, my boy,” replied the captain; “in the proverbs of Solomon you will find the following words: ‘May we never want a friend in need, nor a bottle to give him!’ When found, make a note of.”
Dickens.    
  205
  Now when men either are unnatural or irreligious they will not be friends; when they are neither excellent nor useful, they are not worthy to be friends; when they are strangers or unknown, they cannot be friends actually and practically; but yet, as any man hath anything of the good, contrary to those evils, so he can have and must have his share of friendship.
Jeremy Taylor.    
  206
  A slender acquaintance with the world must convince every man that actions, not words, are the true criterion of the attachment of friends; and that the most liberal professions of good-will are very far from being the surest marks of it.
George Washington.    
  207
  Let no man choose him for his friend whom it shall be possible for him ever after to hate; for though the society may justly be interrupted, yet love is an immortal thing, and I will never despise him whom I could once think worthy of my love.
Jeremy Taylor.    
  208
  It is a mere and miserable solitude to want true friends, without which the world is but a wilderness; and even in this scene also of solitude, whosoever in the frame of his nature and affections is unfit for friendship he taketh it of the beast, and not from humanity.
Bacon.    
  209
        The man that hails you Tom or Jack,
And proves by thumps upon your back
    How he esteems your merit,
Is such a friend, that one had need
Be very much his friend indeed
    To pardon or to bear it.
Cowper.    
  210
        In all thy humors, whether grave or mellow,
Thou’rt such a touchy, testy, pleasant fellow,
Hast so much wit and mirth, and spleen about thee,
That there’s no living with thee, nor without thee.
Addison.    
  211
  If we take the freedom to put a friend under our microscope, we thereby insulate him from many of his true relations, magnify his peculiarities, inevitably tear him into parts, and, of course, patch him very clumsily together again. What wonder, then, should we be frightened by the aspect of a monster.
Hawthorne.    
  212
  Nobody who is afraid of laughing, and heartily too at his friend, can be said to have a true and thorough love for him; and, on the other hand, it would portray a sorry want of faith to distrust a friend because he laughs at you. Few men, I believe, are much worth loving in whom there is not something well worth laughing at.
J. C. and A. W. Hare.    
  213
  Deliberate long before thou consecrate a friend, and when thy impartial justice concludes him worthy of thy bosom, receive him joyfully, and entertain him wisely; impart thy secrets boldly, and mingle thy thoughts with his: he is thy very self; and use him so; if thou firmly think him faithful, thou makest him so.
Quarles.    
  214
  The sun is a hundred thousand leagues away, and the water-roses that open to the light of day are in the pool; the moon, friend of the night-blooming lotus, is two hundred thousand leagues distant. Friendship knows no separation that divides it in space.
Vikramacharita.    
  215
  We learn our virtues from the bosom friends who love us; our faults from the enemy who hates us. We cannot easily discover our real form from a friend. He is a mirror on which the warmth of our breath impedes the clearness of the reflection.
Richter.    
  216
        Choose your friend wisely,
    Test your friend well;
True friends, like rarest gems,
    Prove hard to tell.
Winter him, summer him,
    Know your friend well.
Unknown Author.    
  217
  True friends are the whole world to one another; and he that is a friend to himself is also a friend to mankind. Even in my studies the greatest delight I take is of imparting it to others; for there is no relish to me in the possessing of anything without a partner.
Seneca.    
  218
  Friends are discovered rather than made; there are people who are in their own nature friends, only they don’t know each other; but certain things, like poetry, music, and paintings are like the Freemason’s sign,—they reveal the initiated to each other.
Mrs. Stowe.    
  219
  The noblest part of a friend is an honest boldness in the notifying of errors. He that tells me of a fault, aiming at my good, I must think him wise and faithful—wise in spying that which I see not; faithful in a plain admonishment, not tainted with flattery.
Feltham.    
  220
  We ought to give our friend pain if it will benefit him, but not to the extent of breaking off our friendship; but just as we make use of some biting medicine that will save and preserve the life of the patient. And so the friend, like a musician, in bringing about an improvement to what is good and expedient, sometimes slackens the chords, sometimes tightens them, and is often pleasant, but always useful.
Plutarch.    
  221
  However we may flatter ourselves to the contrary, our friends think no higher of us than the world do. They see us with the jaundiced or distrustful eyes of others. They may know better, but their feelings are governed by popular prejudice. Nay, they are more shy of us (when under a cloud) than even strangers; for we involve them in a common disgrace, or compel them to embroil themselves in continual quarrels and disputes in our defence.
Hazlitt.    
  222
  Make not a bosom friend of a melancholy soul; he’ll be sure to aggravate thy adversity and lessen thy prosperity. He goes always heavily loaded, and thou must bear half. He is never in a good humor, and may easily get into a bad one, and fall out with thee.
Fuller.    
  223
  With regard to the choice of friends, there is little to say; for a friend is never chosen. A secret sympathy, the attraction of a thousand nameless qualities, a charm in the expression of the countenance, even in the voice or manner, a similarity of circumstances,—these are the things that begin attachment.
Mrs. Barbauld.    
  224
  If thy friends be of better quality than thyself, thou mayest be sure of two things: the first, that they will be more careful to keep thy counsel, because they have more to lose than thou hast; the second, they will esteem thee for thyself, and not for that which thou dost possess.
Sir Walter Raleigh.    
  225
  Few of us have been so exceptionally unfortunate as not to find, in our own age, some experienced friend who has helped us by precious counsel, never to be forgotten. We cannot render it in kind, but perhaps in the fulness of time it may become our noblest duty to aid another as we have ourselves been aided, and to transmit to him an invaluable treasure, the tradition of the intellectual life.
Hamerton.    
  226
  Our friends should be our incentives to right, but not only our guiding, but our prophetic, stars. To love by right is much, to love by faith is more; both are the entire love, without which heart, mind, and soul cannot be alike satisfied. We love and ought to love one another, not merely for the absolute worth of each, but on account of a mutual fitness of temporary character.
Margaret Fuller Ossoli.    
  227
  Thou may’st be sure that he that will in private tell thee of thy faults, is thy friend, for he adventures thy dislike, and doth hazard thy hatred; for there are few men that can endure it, every man for the most part delighting in self-praise, which is one of the most universal follies that bewitcheth mankind.
Sir Walter Raleigh.    
  228
        There is no treasure the which may be compared unto a faithful friend;
Gold soone decayeth, and worldly wealth consumeth, and wasteth in the winde;
But love once planted in a perfect and pure minde endureth weale and woe;
The frownes of fortune, come they never so unkinde, cannot the same overthrowe.
Roxburghe Ballads.    
  229
        The way is short, O friend,
That reaches out before us;
God’s tender heavens above us bend,
His love is smiling o’er us;
A little while is ours
For sorrow or for laughter;
I’ll lay the hand you love in yours
On the shore of the Hereafter.
Mary Clemmer.    
  230
  No man can expect to find a friend without faults; nor can he propose himself to be so to another. Without reciprocal mildness and temperance there can be no continuance of friendship. Every man will have something to do for his friend, and something to bear with in him. The sober man only can do the first; and for the latter, patience is requisite. It is better for a man to depend on himself, than to be annoyed with either a madman or a fool.
Owen Feltham.    
  231
        What shall I do, my friend,
When you are gone forever?
My heart its eager need will send
Through the years to find you never,
And how will it be with you,
In the weary world, I wonder,
Will you love me with a love as true,
When our paths lie far asunder?
Mary Clemmer.    
  232
        O friend, my bosom said,
Through thee alone the sky is arched.
Through thee the rose is red;
All things through thee take nobler form,
And look beyond the earth,
The mill-round of our fate appears
A sun-path in thy worth.
Me too thy nobleness has taught
To master my despair;
The fountains of my hidden life
Are through thy friendship fair.
Emerson.    
  233
  Old friends are the great blessings of one’s latter years. Half a word conveys one’s meaning. They have memory of the same events, and have the same mode of thinking. I have young relations that may grow upon me, for my nature is affectionate, but can they grow old friends? My age forbids that. Still less can they grow companions. Is it friendship to explain half one says? One must relate the history of one’s memory and ideas; and what is that to the young but old stories?
Horace Walpole.    
  234
 
 
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