Conceptualization

By definition, self-perception is your interpretation of your own behavior. However, your interpretation of yourself could be influenced by what others think and say about you. Sometimes people find themselves over analyzing who they are and they end up degrading themselves or they try to change who they truly are. As emotional human beings, they seem to find themselves being more judgmental toward their own actions and appearances. When others make assumptions, they only see the outside and make judgements based on appearances rather than looking deeper in order to discover the true beauty that’s exists beneath. “Lonesome, With Snails”, “The Mother”, and “Portrait of My Body” are three essays that will be used to explain how self-perception

The preoccupied attachment style is characterized by low fear of closeness and high fear of abandonment. Individuals classified as preoccupied have a negative model of themselves. Because preoccupies see themselves as unworthy of love and unsupportive, they tend to “strive for self-acceptance by gaining the acceptance of valued others” (Bartholomew, 227) and would do everything to keep people in their life; Preoccupied individuals try to avoid any kind of conflict in order to make themselves loveable and others happy. Despite the fact that preoccupies often see others as trustworthy and available, they also feel that others do not care about them as much as they care about others.

Attachment refers to the degree to which an individual is close to non-deviant others, including, family members, friends and peers. One’s willingness to conforming to norms and expectations is dependent on how attached they are to others. This element goes on to extends

As in have mentioned in my introduction, there are mainly theorists in this field and all have there own perception of attachment. One such theorist, John Bowlby states

This causes her to become reserved and silent, obviously mortified by Connie’s betrayal and abandonment.

Attachment, according to Emde (1982) is a deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another, across time and space. John Bowlby, and Evolutionist, believed that attachment was pre-programmed. In order for us to survive as a species, we needed to attach to a significant other; that its innate in us to single out a few specific individuals around us and attach to them, an so providing a survival advantage. Bowlby rationalised that the attachment between a mother and infant was unlike any other bond; very unlike the bond an infant would develop with another human. He coined it ‘Monotrophy’.

They are closing her job, so soon she will be unemployed and all of this is coming at her at once. Her life is full of stressors at the moment; I’m not so sure that she doesn’t even know everything that is weighing on her mind.

A psychological perspective of attachment is a term to describe a reciprocal emotional tie that develops over time. There are many developmental theories relating themselves to attachment and deprivation and many arguments over the nature-nurture debate. However, the name that comes to the forefront of most minds when speaking of this topic is

She is disgusted at her mercenary and calculating sisters, who deceive their father. She prefers to “love and be silent.”

this point, she had concluded on it as she saw her mother's “disappointed face”(2). In the mirror,

At the beginning of the course the class was introduced the concept of attachment styles. Attachment styles are the types of behavior displayed in relationships shaped by a two-part set of basic assumptions, conclusion, or core beliefs about one’s self and others. In laymen’s terms it is how one person interacts with another either God, spouse, child, friend, or even self. There are four different types of attachment styles and they are: secure, ambivalent, disorganized, and secure. The relationship style that all should aspire to be a secure attachment style, however I would classify myself as having an ambivalent attachment style. This is the attachment style where I believe I am not worthy of love since I am flawed. It also takes the assumption that I will not be able to get the love I need without being angry or clingy.

Attachment is a deep and emotional bond that connects two people together. During attachment both individuals bring qualities and characteristics that influence the development of this unique bond. There are two major styles of attachment; secure and insecure, and insecure attachment can be broken down into three types: Avoidant, anxious-ambivalent, and disorganized attachment. I believe that there are many factors in life that can change someone’s attachment style, there are also things you can do to change them, and that your attachment style you grow into as an infant and toddler can affect your future relationships.

Attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby, Attachment is defined as the formation of a psychological and emotional relationship between an infant and its primary caregiver. It’s also a pattern of relational style that the child learns from the adults and caregivers whom play the largest role in the child’s life. That pattern is learned in early childhood and thought to repeat itself throughout an individual’s life, in both their social and romantic relationships.

From the 1960s to the 1980s psychologists have worked and developed a four-part attachment style for adults. These styles are related to how individuals see themselves, how they see others, and how they relate to the people who are special to them. The attachment styles are secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant.

There is an abundance of research concerning attachment theory. This research ranges in age, environment, and time, place, can focus on one attachment style, and on certain situations. According to research from Fraley and Shaver (2000), attachment theorists have construed a variety of 3 functions that separate attachment relationships from other kinds of relationships. The first is that an attachment bond is marked by the tendency for a person to remain in close contact with the attachment figure, and when separated, typically experience some degree of distress. Secondly, the attachment figure is considered a “safe haven” when struck with illness, danger, or threat, and is seen as a protector or supporter. Third, an attachment figure promotes